Post # 1
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Worker bee
So my husband and i have been TTC for alost a year, started before the wedding which was August 3rd. No luck, nada, zip, none. I’m so irritated and ready to give up. If it doesnt happen by this time next year im throwing in the towel. Im 29 but hes 42 and i want my kids to have their father around when they graduate. The problem is my husband has no sex drive and the dr gave him testosterone shots every week to boost his sex drive but that lowers the already low sperm count. About 4-5 months ago the doc took him off of that since we are renting wanting to TTC and so he put him on a estrogen blocler every other day which is supposed to increase his testosterone naturally. So far no luck and no sex drive. Anyone have any ideas or positive advice! Iwant sex and i want babies and i want them both now! LOL
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
@SnaggedAgoodOne: This must be super frustrating. I don’t have any experience TTC, but *hugs* The only advice I can give is, focus more on the sex you want, and less on the babies. (I know that’s hard.) Maybe Darling Husband needs some… ummmm *stimulation* prior to the baby making? Of the oral variety?
Have you guys considered IVF?
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
What a rotten situation!
Are you using OPK’s or charting? If you know when you’re ovulating, at least you could concentrate what sex you are having during that time.
🙁 I hope you get a BFP soon!
Post # 5
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Worker bee
charting wont work because hes in the oilfield and only home one week a month. Thats part of the problem too………. Andw ith testosterone being low hes just mentally not in the mood.
“IT” works, he just doesnt feel like it……… Ive nver bought so many batteries in my life. Ladies buy stock in Energizer lol
Post # 6
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Busy bee
Your husband is only around one week out of the month and he’s not interested in sex during that one week? That’s unusual. Maybe you guys need to talk to a counselor. It could be possible that he feels really stressed out and anxious about being gone so often and that’s affecting his sex drive.
Post # 7
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Worker bee
@sailor_girl: When your count is this low it’s almost helpless until the meds kick in. Testosterone levels range from 350-1200 . 350 is considered very very low. My poor fellow is a 213 🙁
Post # 8
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Busy bee
@SnaggedAgoodOne: Wow, that’s awful. I’m sorry, but I’m glad that you guys have a doctor involved. Fingers crossed that things get better soon.
Also, my ex-husband was also uninterested in sex and I REALLY understand how much it can hurt the ego to be shot down when initiating sex. Hope that you guys can keep the lines of communication open. Many internet hugs sent your way!
Post # 9
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Honey bee
@sailor_girl: I agree, while his T levels are super low, thats odd that the one week he’s home he isn’t interested at all.
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
@SnaggedAgoodOne: I understand what you are saying becuase my husband has low T as well. What does his doctor say about his problem and TTC?
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
do you guys still get around to having sex even when he’s not in the mood? is he able to ejaculate?
if he’s not responding to medication as hoped and completing the act is difficult, you may need to start thinking of other TTC methods. like… IUI.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
Testoserone doesn’t drop sperm count, it eliminates it!!! It’s basically male birth control!!! Ugh! Stupid doctors!!! Same thing happened to my husband… He was on testosterone from October to february… We just finally conceived in September… It takes at least 3-4 months before sperm counts will regulate and even then you only have like a 20% chance of getting pregnant each cycle so please don’t give up!!
Our fertility clinic said that some testosterone patients respond well to clomid… Good luck!