(Closed) Agh… I Need Help.

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I would vote for now- seems like you have a lot (buying house, visa arrangements, attending school there without paying foreign student fees, babies, etc.).

I can see your issue about getting married the same year as your sister, so maybe just speak to her about it.. I’m sure she’ll give you her blessing to go ahead when she sees you thought about her feelings.

Re: planning a last minute wedding, there will definitely be people which won’t be able to come since they’re scattered across the world, but to put it into perspective, do you think on a years notice some of those people would attend?  In the mere fact you repeated, "what if no one comes" , I would suggest you put out feelers re: a local wedding.. if people can’t attend, would you consider a destination wedding, or a courthouse wedding? They can both be absolutely beautiful! 

Good luck in whatever you choose!  

Post # 4
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3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Wowza… I myself am dealing with immigration issues to the US. I’m not sure how immigration to the UK works, but is it as simple as showing a piece of paper to gain entry into the UK? In the US, my Fiance needed to apply for a Fiance visa & we have many, many hoops to jump through. If we got married now, he could apply for a Spousal visa, but it could take over a year for that to be processed & approved. Doing it this way we have 1 year to plan a wedding & have given our long distance guest plenty of time to make travel plans.

Going in on a student visa usually doesn’t work if you’re already married to a citizen… make sure you know all the laws ahead of time. It’s extremely stressful, but doing it the legal way is the best way to ensure you can stay together.

Is he in the US currently? Will you have your wedding in Oregon? Are you immigrating w/ your child- she will need a visa too! Also, if you get married in the US, will the UK allow you to enter? My Fiance visa would be invalid if we were to marry before I was on US soil.

I would definitely say WAIT until all the legal issues are sorted out. The worst thing would be to plan a wedding over the next 2 1/2 months & then be denied entry to the UK.

Sorry I don’t want to rain on your parade!! I’ve just read some horror stories on some of the immigration websites I frequently visit.   

I’m actually really confused: you said you wanted to move to the UK and buy a house there, but then you said you won’t be able to leave the US after you’re married… is he applying for citizenship in the US? lol Ugh or perhaps US & UK got mixed up. I’m getting confused w/ all the abbreviations myself.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Cellardoor: I really want to help!! I’m fascinated with all things visa related.

I hope I didn’t come across as harsh… its just when visas are related, the romance is gone. There’s no whisking away & living happily ever after until the proper steps have been taken.

Post # 8
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3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Phewf… its nice to know that the fees are similar across the world. It still stings a bit…

Well, I think you said it best when you said, "it’s kind of perfect" Your life together is starting now!

Is it really that big of a deal if you can’t change your name before you move? That’s just a small detail… you’ll be together sooner. Now, after your reply, I say go for it. I would love to be with my FI right now. I’d marry him in a potato sack dress in the desert just to get the chance to be with him every day.  

Post # 9
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883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I’d say do a small and simple wedding now, and have your big celebration later. The reception is meant to be a celebration of being married – while unconventional – there is no reason it can’t be a year or two later.

Post # 11
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94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

It seems like you would rather be married now than later!  🙂  I hope all the planning stuff will get taken care of… there’s A LOT you can find here on weddingbee or other sites like projectwedding, stylemepretty, snippet and ink…. do you have $ in the budget for a wedding planner?  maybe that will help you so that you can get the ideas and stuff you need in a short amount of time.  Good luck!

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