Post # 1
Hi bees, I am fairly new to this site so I wanted to say ‘hi’ *waves* and tell my story…
So, my SO wanted me to pick out my own ring (and I was happy with that) and I showed him a picture of the ring that I would like. I told myself that when I made my decision I would forget about it all (I have a 2 month old who I thought would help this proccess) but, alas, all I can think about is the bling. Then, after a few weeks of being restless I did a bit of snooping (tisk tisk) I found out that he bought a ring! After nearly 3 years, a house and a baby!
But he doesn’t know that I know he bought it, and I know that he will do a big proposal and want to surprise me. I live in Australia and it’s being shipped from America so I guess it’s going to take a little while to get here, plus I’ll have to wait untill he decides to officially pop ‘the question’. I really want the proposal to be a surprise and I want him to think that he’s done an amazing job- which he has- but how do I keep playing dumb? Especially when it’s so close and I want it so bad? Do I keep doing what I’ve been doing (looking at rings and on forums) or do I just shut up and be patient? I just don’t want him to know I know, you know?
This is my ‘waiting story’, what’s yours?
Post # 3
@dreamingofbling:Keep playing dumb. If a man doesn’t think he is going to surprise you then he keeps putting it off. Also, he doesn’t want to feel like all you care about is the proposal and the wedding. Welcome to the hive! I’m waiting, but I have stumbled across things and I know it should be happening soon!
Post # 4
@dreamingofbling: Hi I am a fellow Aussie (impatient) waiter too! lol Ive been here about a month now and its been a great help knowing its not just me going bonkers! Def take Miss Tattoo’s advice – keep quiet and look for distractions! (I am in a very similar situation to you – knowing about the ring and such and the house but no bub just a puppy). There are lots of threads here that talk about distracting yourself.
If hes got the ring then it shouldnt be too far off – maybe hes just waiting for the right moment! From what Ive learnt on here once they get the ring it burns a hole in their pocket!
Keep daydreaming on here and look at other wedding sites. Im surprised your 2 month old isnt keeping you on your toes (good sleeper??)!!
Good luck and welcome to the Bee!!
Post # 5
Welcome to the Hive! This is a wonderful and supportive group of bees who will gladly cheer you on as you wait for that magical moment!
Post # 6
@shmell7: My two month old is an ange; shocking I know, I was prepared for a little terror haha! I’m sure he will get to the terror stage as soon as he is moving around! I have a puppy too and I think she keeps me busier than he does 😛
Ughh I hope he doesn’t make me wait too much longer once it’s here, I don’t want to get to the stage where I’m pulling the house apart to try and find it! LOL. SO is a very patient man.
So to distract myself I have started baking… My cupboard is now full of baked goods, which SO is loving, and I’m sure he thinks I’ve gone a bit nuts. I might let him ‘catch’ me looking at rings still, that way he will think I’m clueless hehe.
Post # 7
Welcome to the ‘bee! I hope you keep distracting yourself with baking, it’s a great distraction. 🙂
Post # 8
I just hope that eating the food I bake doesn’t become more distracting 😛
Post # 9
I would keep browsing online. . .afterall, once you’re officially engaged, you’ll probably be needing a wedding band. 😉
If he knows you’ve been around the wedding forums, he won’t suspect anything.
You have no idea when the ring will arrive or what he’s planning for the proposal. Let him bask in his glory and plan the ultimately perfect proposal for you. You definitely don’t want to hurt his man-pride, and if he finds out you know, he might be crushed. I would keep on doing whatever it is that you’ve been doing with respect to engagements/weddings/planning/etc.
Plus, it sounds like you guys have probably talked about marriage since you have a baby and house together. I’m sure you’ve discussed marriage and aren’t completely surprised.
My SO and I have discussed the idea of me helping pick out my ring when it’s time. I’ve promised myself, though, that if I am involved, I will in no way pester SO about the proposal. He, too, has made it clear that he wants it to be very special for me, and I want to be able to give him his moment of glory when he proposes and sees the look on my face. I know your case is a bit different, but I say don’t change a darn thing that you’re doing so he has no clue you know.
Don’t ask and don’t tell. It’s not like he’s going to come out and ask you, “Did you snoop around and find that I ordered your ring and am planning to propose?” Lol.