- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Help fellow Bees! I’ve been in pretty good shape throughout my 2 1/2 (!) years of planning our wedding, but I’m just about reaching my breaking point, and it’s all thanks to the stupid guest list, or more specifically, my side of the family!
Our original plan was to only invite guests’ husbands/wives and fiance/es. We were doing fine until my sister pointed out that my younger cousin has been with her boyfriend for almost 6 years and they own a house together (no idea if they ever plan to marry). So added one more to the guest list we did. I have an older cousin who I haven’t seen in at least 3+ years even though he’s only one state over (he tends to show up at family events to ‘surprise’ everyone and of course I’m never at them because I only come to them once in a while because I’m too far away). I just found out recently he’s been dating someone for 4 years and he just introduced her to the family at one of his surpise family visits (which I of course did not attend). My aunt (not mother of the older cousin, but blood related) just texted me to say the family grapevine has me inviting my younger cousin’s boyfriend + her sister’s boyfriend (whom she’s only dated a year) and that my older cousin may be feeling weird about not having his girlfriend invited. So she pretty much just said, without directly saying it, that I should invite the older cousin’s girlfriend whom I’ve never met. WTF?!?!
Now I’m stuck – do I just tell the older cousin we can’t accomodate anyone more, since we’re on such a tight budget, or do I suck it up and invite her? (keep in mind we do have room for her, but my fiance and I are trying really hard to stick to a budget). The bad side to inviting is that my other cousin may then get offended that she can’t invite her boyfriend, whom she’s only dated a year and I’ve never met!
Anyone else as frustrated with their families and guest list?!?!