Post # 1
We have been engaged for three years, but made the very impromptu decision in January to just bite the bullet and get married already, so we’re set for April 2nd, 2011. The problem is we are financing this event ourselves cannot afford a reception. I am agonizing over this! In an effort to make the wedding somewhat special, we are hosting a dinner for immediate family and the bridal party at a nice restaurant, but I feel so weird inviting my friends (mostly co-workers, btw) to the wedding and then being like, “Alrighty. See ya on Monday!” I would do a small cake and punch type deal if I could, but the ceremony venue does not allow food and there is nowhere to host such an event for 125 people without committing to a $4000 minimum food expenditure! We are not registered for gifts and have asked that none be brought to the wedding. Is not having a reception as tacky as it feels?
Post # 3
@tess75: I don’t think it’s tacky. However, you can’t do *something* little? Even if it’s buying a sheet cake from Costco and some hawaiian punch served in dixiecups in the church’s parking lot?
If you really can’t swing it, I think that it’s okay if you invite people to the wedding so long as they understand it’s a ceremony only. This is because I don’t consider a family dinner afterwards a “reception.” But to make it even more clear, you might want to have a good chunk of time between ceremony and reception (like am ceremony, pm dinner) so that people don’t see you guys riding off. You have to have REALLY set boundaries as to the little dinner you are having afterwards (emphasis: little)–ie, immediately family only and like, two of your besties. And tell your family and friends who are going to that not to spread it around.
Post # 4
What about a punch and cake reception?
Post # 5
I’m sorry 🙁 But to answer your question, of course it’s not tacky! I agree with @jennyw1, why not get a big sheet cake and maybe some different cookies or desserts from Costco or Sams and just have a desserts and mingle reception. Then, invite your friends to an after party at a bar or club and just all go out.
Post # 6
Thanks, ladies. After much agonizing and many, many hours of research and one desperate pleading phone call, I found a venue we can afford just today! They are giving me a 57% discount off of the regular price because my wedding is so close and the ballroom isn’t booked. Real dinner, hors d’oeuvres, wine, champagne and beer. And it’s nice to boot! It’s not what I would call my dream venue, but all that’s important in the end is that everyone has a great time and that we’re married. 🙂
Post # 8
What luck!! I wave my Yay flag for you!!
Post # 11
Your enthusiam for me is infectious and helping to quell those buyer’s remorse pains I’ve been feeling after putting down the deposit today. lol Thanks!
Post # 12
Have you checked to see if there is a community center rec room available? some of these are surprisingly cheap and if your event is during the day, basically a cake and punch reception, you can probably get away with a rental for half a day. You don’t have to go all out for decorations.
Here is a link to community centers in Cincinnatti. http://www.cincinnati-oh.gov/crc/pages/-5672-/
Post # 14
Have you considered having a reception on a Sunday night? It could save you a fortune. You should not have to settle but you may have to be creative. Am I to understand that you are in the Military?