(Closed) Trying to pick a date…FI and I don't agree!

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: How was the process of agreeing on a wedding date for you and your FI/DH?
    Very easy- We wanted the same thing and both agreed instantly : (42 votes)
    46 %
    Fairly easy- We didn't initially agree but it was fairly easy to come to a compromise : (19 votes)
    21 %
    Kind of difficult- We didn't initially agree and it took a while to come to an agreement : (3 votes)
    3 %
    Very difficult- It took us forever to agree, neither wanted to compromise : (0 votes)
    FI just went with what I wanted : (25 votes)
    27 %
    We just went with what FI wanted : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    3968 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Reign14:  I know you’re antsy. But I think the difference between April and August is so small…  Maybe you can get married near your anniversary I think that makes it really special! Depending on your location too it may be less expensive!

    Post # 4
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    2869 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    You don’t have an option for, I picked the date and he said okay whatever you want love HAHA

    Well, I think if you want to get married six months earlier just cus of the baby thing, you can probably relax and go with his if he has such a strong opinion.  However, if you want a spring wedding because you want a spring wedding, then advocate for that and explain to him that this is the vision you have.  FYI, two years will fly by… my engagement has gone from 19 months to less than a year in the blink of an eye!!!

    Post # 6
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    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Could you compromise and get married August of 2013?

    Post # 7
    Member
    282 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    It was difficult because he wanted an autumn wedding (and so did I) but I am a teacher and didn’t see how it would work out. It was hard for him to let go of, but eventually, he understood and went with what I wanted.

    Post # 8
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    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @CharmBracelet:  +1

    Also see when the “off season” is in your area. At our venue the pp cost difference between a sat in march and a sat in august is like 20 bucks. Which adds up fast.

    ETA: You’re in Jersey (same as me) so March is definitely cheaper at most venues.

    Post # 9
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    7685 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Why does he want summer? Because it’s warm? Then I suggest late spring, i.e. May.

    I love spring, and we both like warm weather, so I was a late spring bride. (November in Australia is like May in northern hemisphere).

    Post # 13
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    9139 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    Our engagement is going to be one month shy of 2 years.  I love having a longer engagement because we are able to budget more and slowly accumulate things for the wedding.  The first time around I rushed and planned everything in 5 months so I spent the entire time being stressed instead of enjoying the planning process.  This time I am tackling one project per month so I have been way less stressed.

    As for color scheme issues, down here we tossed out the seasonal colors for the most part.  Even though I am getting married in November we are having bright summery colors (turquoise and lime.)  I think it’s more important to pick a venue you love, then settle on a date they have available, and then pick your color scheme based on the venue so it compliments the venue.  But that’s just MHO.

    Post # 14
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    3830 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    He wanted Fall, i wanted Spring.  We’re getting married in August. 

    We had to work around other weddings and our parents schedules. IN the end, what does the date really matter? I just want to marry him!

    Post # 15
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    4192 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    I always wanted to get married in April or October, and we ended up in July, due to venue availability. So I’d make that your focus before you deal with color schemes, etc.- figure out *where* you want to get married, then focus on *when.*

    I disagree with you that an August/September wedding is “less special” than one in June- the month it’s in really doesn’t matter-your guests aren’t going to judge you for that. The Knot’s 2011 survey said- “Most Popular Wedding Month: June (15%).” So that means the MAJORITY of weddings aren’t in June. May’s the third most popular month, if it’s really a concern of his.

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