Post # 17
I would do August or September for a few reasons… you are out of wedding season so cheaper pricing, you are close to your anni, your Fiance will have little input in most things otherwise so let him have this one, and you are right in the grand scheme you are still31 or 32 when you concieve so let the day slide
Post # 18
If you go with august you could go with a date close to your anniversary, maybe that’s what he was thinking and is part of why he wants an august wedding.
Post # 19
we did a rather non-romantic approach…
we made a spreadsheet full of many wedding related pages, one of those were possible dates. i went and listed a few. i originally wanted a fall wedding but we got engaged in april and then i realized getting a dress in that short of time was close to impossible so i scraped that idea. so i decided late spring/early summer. i made a list of dates and gave my pros and cons for each. and after seeing the pros and cons we both decided that the best day was june 1. it’s not romantic. i’m not tied to the season. but he won’t be taking classes for his masters. we’ll be able to enjoy the day. we’ll be able to take a long honeymoon. we won’t have to worry about hotels being booked for different events in our town and neighboring towns. if folks want they can take memorial week off and come and hang with us.
Post # 20
i wanted to wait a year/ a year and a half since we live in mexico and my friends/family would need some time to save.
i also wanted to avoid summer as its hotter than hell here – 35-40 degrees. so we decided march next year…was 1 year and 3 months after we got engaged.
i came up with a few different options and let fi pick. the time has passed amazingly quickly since last christmas (when we got engaged) so im sure itll pass quickly for you too!
Post # 21
I second the idea of coming up with a list of possible dates and then looking into venue availability, etc. This is especially helpful if you have your heart set on one particular venue, or if you are looking to book on a church’s calendar.
Also remember to think about other possible factors – is anyone in either of your families also celebrating a major event, etc? Sometimes a spring wedding can overlap with someone’s graduation, or if there is a milestone anniversary coming up, you might want to take that into consideration …
It’s even a good idea to think about local events that wouldn’t really be a part of your wedding, but could impact things like hotel availability. A week or two back there was a thread from a bride whose plans got turned upside down because she hadn’t realized that the NBA Final Four coincided with her date in her city, and getting hotel rooms for guests became completely impossible.
In our case, after looking at our options and what was open at our church, Fiance and I had a shortlist of three dates that we were debating. It took us a while to come to an agreement – he strongly favored one, I strongly favored a different one. Then a friend of mine asked, “Did you check the football schedule?” Turned out that both the dates we were lobbying for coincided with BIG home football games. The third option was an away game – *way* better for our guests as far as hotel rooms go. So that’s how we arrived at our agreement.
Post # 22
Funny, I did the exact same thing with the whole spreadsheet and each tab for a different part of the wedding (i.e. dates, venues, guest list, budget, etc.) The dates I listed were primarily b/c I want the numbers in the date to be meaningful and we are avoiding a June-July wedding and a winter wedding. This approach isn’t helping us come to an agreement 🙁
An August 2014 wedding would mean a 2 year and 5 month engagement for us. That’s longer than I had hoped. Hoping the time will pass quickly.
I like the idea of deciding on a venue first and basing our decision off of venue availability. One reason we’re choosing 2014 is b/c my FI’s cousin (who’s really like a brother) just got married this summer (July) and Fiance was the best man. And FI’s brother is getting married July 2013. Yes, we want our own year! But I wasn’t thinking it’d be so late in the year.
Thanks for the tips on looking out for events in the area, definitely good advice.
Very true that Fiance will probably not have input on much, so I do want to give him this. However, he’s showing early signs of being more opinionated than expected. Sheesh.
Post # 23
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
I told Fiance I wanted an October and he said ok. We found a venue that we love but doesn’t do October weddings because the entire month of October they have a Haunted House. So I said what about Sept? He said ok lol. Well then venue only had 1 Sept week available for 2013 (they book out 2 years in advance) and while I was trying to figure out if I wanted to change to a early Sept/late summer wedding someone booked it. So now we get the weekend we want, Sept 27 which is late Sept and close enough to Oct to make me happy. But we have to wait until 2014. I think Fiance is just now telling me to pick a date lol but he’s ok with whatever I decide.
Post # 24
We agreed on the month, date just fell in place.
I would look at venues/churches and see what dates the one you fall in love with have open…and choose from one of the available dates
Post # 25
That’s crazy that you pushed the wedding back a year so you could get the month you wanted. I’d switch months in a hertbeat before I push it back further!