(Closed) Ah, Push It?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

If you quit your job, how are you going to be able to save up for the wedding?  I would be worried that you would not be able to find another job for a while if you leave your job (I have been out of work since July).  I don’t think it would be horrible to push the date back after sending out the Save-The-Date Cards but I would be worried about how you would afford getting married without a job.  Maybe you should consider just eloping and having a hometown reception (for a lower cost)?

Post # 4
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Don’t want to sound like a jerk BUT can’t you just stick it out for 3 more months until the wedding is over?  Any way to cut back your hours @ work w/o quitting?

Post # 5
2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I wouldn’t push back the wedding at all.  That just adds more stress to the situation.  I agree with JKH2be – maybe stick the job out until right before the wedding.  Put in your notice just before the wedding so that you will quit right before the wedding.  Then you can go on a honeymoon for however long and come back to a new/different job.  In the meantime, be looking for new jobs.


Post # 6
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think leaving your job right now is ideal in this economy. I’d only leave if something else was already lined up.  Living on one income is a lot harder compared to duel incomes. As for not having enough time, could you try and work less hours at work? Or take a day or two off work to do wedding stuff?  

I’m sorry if I’m not much help.  You really are in a tough spot.  Good luck.

Post # 7
28 posts
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with the girls. If you’ve come this far in your planning and the wedding is now only 3 months away i would try and stick it out! How long are you prepared to postpone? If you leave and find it difficult finding a new job it could be a long time before you have saved to have your dream wedding! It must be horrible being in such a stressful situation and not liking your work. If the wedding was a year away i’d say maybe yes put the wedding off but it’s so close now are you really prepared to stop it? You’d probably need to give a months notice anyway wouldn’t you? I think if your going to leave do it after the wedding or just before as someone else has mentioned! Good luck!

Post # 8
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

You can do it!  I planned my destination wedding while working full time at a job I am on call for 24-7 and while getting my MBA at night.  It was not easy but I did it. I think if you know what you want wedding wise it makes it easier,  a lot of time is wasted on making decisions.  Be clear, concise, and execute.   Also if your family cannot contribute money, may they can help with some of the wedding tasks?  Seriously, quitting your job for a one day event is very irresponsible especially in this economy. CA has 12% unemployment!

Post # 10
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@MissKiss – I’m in a similar position. Not thrilled with my job, stressed out and ill on Mondays. But, I’m sticking it out until after the wedding while testing the waters to see what’s out there. I hit 3 years in a few months, at which time I’ll be fully vested in my 401(k), and with that milestone so close, I also find it kind of irresponsible to want to leave so urgently. So, I’m sucking it up and hope that soon I’ll find a position that’s a better fit but doesn’t affect our bottom line!

Post # 11
829 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think there are many of us not happy at our jobs. You are not alone. In reality we have to stick to it and 3-4 months doesnt seem so bad. You can do it! Just after the wedding instead of focusing planning a wedding you can then have time to focus on finding a better job!

Post # 12
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I didn’t love what I was doing right up until the wedding, but I gutted it out despite the stress.  I started planning out a nationwide job search before the wedding and lined up a few interviews for when we returned from the honeymoon.  This gave me the feeling of a light at the end of the tunnel.

I interviewed in September and start my new job this September (which gave us time to get pregnant and have a baby!)  In my line of work it takes about a year to line up a new position, credential and start.

Anyway, I wouldn’t make any sudden moves based on wedding stress.  This too shall pass!

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