(Closed) Ah! What do I do?!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
5554 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Tell her kindly that while you wish you could accomidate everyone you wanted to come, your budget only allows for her and her plus 1 not plus 4. 

Post # 5
Member
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

WTF?! Does she have 3 kids? Regardless, just call her and tell her she can only bring 1 person!

Post # 8
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2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MAURINA:  Oh wow, I can’t believe the audacity of some people!!!  Good luck in dealing with this… I think honesty is the best policy, and just stick with your guns.  Don’t allow her to guilt you into anything – she’s not paying for this wedding.

Post # 9
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8123 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I would say it is some of her kids not all? A couple might have been busy lol

Just give her a call and let her know that you ahve only reserved 2 seats for her.

Post # 10
Member
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Call her up and say “Hey I just got your RSVP!  Thanks so much for getting it back to me.  I hate to have to do this but I think that there was a misunderstanding on the invite–the invitation was just for you and jack.  We really can’t afford 3 extra people.  We’ve had to cut a lot of family from the guest list due to budget constraints.  I wish we could just invite everyone but it’s not something we can do.  If you need to make other arrangements, just let me know.”

Post # 11
Member
5014 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Call her (or make your MOH do it!) and just say sorry, only room for 2! That is so ridiculous.

Post # 12
Member
2010 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh my god.  What are people thinking?

And who would want to go to a wedding f someone they don’t know?!?!

Call and tell them hell to the no.

Post # 13
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45655 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Call her and tell her that there must have been some kind of misunderstanding, but DO NOT get into make excuses or giving reasons like budget or space. If you leave an opening, there will always be the guest who will volunteer to pay for the extra plates, or reassure you that their child will sit on their lap.

Simply tell them that you are unable to accomodate more than the two people who were invited and tht you will miss them at the wedding if that does not work for them.

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