(Closed) Ahh! Duplicate Dress Drama

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
1490 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Well, first off, you’re going to look different in your dress because it’ll be *your* dress. And you’ll be wearing different accessories and as we know, accessories can totally make an outfit. How about veil choices? Shoes? Bouquet? I think you’ll look fabulous and unique on your wedding day. And really – how many people are going to remember her dress that closely from last February? They will be focusing on the overall ‘look’ of you and how beautifully bridal you are.

Post # 4
2681 posts
Sugar bee

Do you have a picture of it so we can see what might be able to be changed?  I do agree with your BM’s though, most people probably wont even notice, especially with differing body shapes and sizes 🙂  Too not to worry about it too much!

Post # 5
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

It will look different on you, PROMISE. Probably no one who is at your wedding (is there much overlap between your guestlist and hers?) will realize it’s the same dress, either. And if you’re not convinced, just make sure your accessories and shoes are different. Don’t change a dress you love just because someone else loved it, too!

Post # 6
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Don’t panic! And don’t change your dress. You are going to be unique on your wedding day no matter what. Try searching on “dress twins” on Weddingbee and you’ll see how common it is for people to have the same dress. I know it’s different if it’s someone you know, but really it’s not going to be so bad, I promise. When you look at your photos in 50 years you’ll want to remember yourself looking exactly as you wanted to be, not mostly good but with details changed because some girl you were remotely acquainted with had the same dress six months before your date and you made your dress other than you wanted it for the sake of not looking like her. Make your dress just like you want to make it, no matter what anyone else is doing.

And we would love to see dress pics, if only for their own sake :).

Post # 7
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

I’m sure it’ll look different on you!  Plus, factor in shoes, jewelry, veil/hair accessories, etc. and you really have a completely new, unique look!

Post # 8
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Dont worry – and avoid the bridezilla draw…. its a slipepry slope! 🙂  IF you are set on altering it, I’d say changing (or adding) the straps is the quickest way to make it seem different.

Post # 10
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The dress is beautiful. No one will notice unless you tell them, so don’t vent to too many people. You will look completely different unless she is your clone. Just think about how the dress looks on the model in the ads, and then how it looks on you.

Post # 11
19 posts

Don’t worry.  Like the others have said, you are a different person, and nobody is going to be at the wedding going, OMGosh, that’s the same dress that so and so wore!  The focus is going to be on beautiful you!  Your hair, headpiece, veil, jewelry will all be different.  Personality too!

I worked in the bridal industry for many years.  So of course, I saw the same dress on many brides.  And no two brides ever looked identical in that dress.  We never saw it that way.  It is the BRIDE, not the dress that is getting married!



Post # 12
5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

No one will notice. Accessories will be you friend! And, I think you could add a sash if you feel the need to change even a little something about it. However, I think it looks great now.

Post # 13
43 posts
  • Wedding: November 2009

Krae – You are going to look gorgeous – Your hair will be different – You may have a different hairpiece or veil and you will look amazing. Don’t fret!

The dress is gorgeous by the way!

If changing the look of it is crucial to you – Add a sash of your color scheme or perhaps a gorgeous heirloom rhinestone or pearlesque stone broach at or under the V-neck of the top of your dress.

I just saw another bride the other day- clasp one of those fabulous flower/feather hairpiece on the shoulder of her dress instead of her head!


Good Luck!


Post # 14
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Don’t worry about it.  2 girls in our close circle of friends got married 2 weeks apart from each other and they (accidentally) got the same dress.  But it looked completely different on them, and each looked beautiful in their own right. 

Post # 15
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That dress is really pretty, and also has clean, classic lines. There’s no particular beading or flower that is going to jar someone’s memory back to that other girls wedding. And honestly, while I always notice that a bride looks great, a  year later, I could never describe her dress exactly.  You’re going to look great!

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