Post # 1
We are lucky enough to have parents that are splitting the cost of our wedding, and want to include all their names on our wedding invitations.
A few things complicate this:
1. My parents are “hosting”, since the wedding will be in their hometown and they are paying for a larger amount (albeit not by much). I also like the tradition of it! Is that okay?
2. My mom kept her maiden name when they got married, so I want to include her last name. And like a few previous posters, I don’t want to just say “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe”. I also think my mom would hate that!
3. I have 3 middle names!!
This is what I have, and I don’t like it for so many reasons!
Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Smith
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
Bride BrideMiddle1 BrideMiddle2 BrideMiddle3
to Groom GroomMiddle
son of Mr. Homer and Mrs. Marge Simpson.
Thanks in advance for any suggestions!
Post # 3
Even though my parents contributed financially to the wedding and his did not, we did:
S. E. W.
A. M. K
together with their parents
Mr. and Mrs. T and D W.
Mr. and Mrs. M and S K.
For your parents you could just write:
Mrs. A. B. and Mr. C. D.
Post # 4
If you want to include the names, then do so, just as you have written.
They are your names. Who cares if it is long?
We all have our personal reasons for wanting it to be worded a certain way. I say go with what you want. It will be beautiful!
Post # 5
Do you want the names of your parents and his parents on the invite??? And my best friends family all has 2 middle names and on hers she just put her first and last. Here are some websites that could help.
Post # 6
You may want to include your mothers married name after her maiden, only because it reads like they are divorced.
Post # 7
Thanks for the suggestions, everyone! I think I may end up leaving out our middle names, but I DO really want to include my mom’s actual name…
@ClairDarling – I was really worried about my parents names reading like they are divorced… however it seems “incorrect” to say “Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Smith Doe”, since my mom has NEVER gone by Mrs. Jane Smith Doe (legally, personally, professionally, or otherwise)!
I think I will just have to do what cvdee says and just write it that way, and deal with it looking a little awkward… SIGH. Any other ideas?
Post # 8
My FMIL also didn’t change her last name, and we are also writing it like you did in your post. I figure anyone we’re inviting is close enough to know that they’re not divorced, so it shouldn’t be a problem.
Post # 9
We are paying for the majority of our wedding, but both sets of parents are also contributing. We did ours this way, so everyone is mentioned but it doesn’t specify who’s hosting:
The honor of your presence is requested at the marriage ceremony of
Daughter of FOB & MOB
Son of FFIL & FMIL