Post # 1
I am trying so hard to NOT talk about engagements/weddings/etc etc etccccc
It is SO hard when he is bringing up things like moving out of state in the future after we are married, when we will have kids….let’s just take one thing at a time here buddy!! Of course I told him that and it of course turns into a ring/proposal/wedding convo. He wants me to realize a wedding is just a wedding and after it, we have to live our life. I GET IT! But still…I really think we should take one thing at a time. He will never give me a timeline about a proposal…I hope he is just trying to throw me off!? The only thing I know for sure is we decided 2012 would be the year to get married…so that means it can’t be THAT much longer right??
It’s SO hard not to bring it up!!! ahh!!
Post # 3
I can’t remember who else has had the same, almost exact probelm with her SO, but I know one Bee on here told her SO that talking about things to take place AFTER they were married, or even making comments about the wedding itself was just frustrating, because he had yet to propose… and until that happened, she’d appreciate it if he’d lay off the wedding/future-after-getting-married talk, because without that first important step, that’s all it is… talk.
I can understand wanting the proposal to be a surprise and all, but guys need to understand that talking about life-steps D, E & F like he’s already followed steps A, B and C, when he hasn’t hit step A is frustrating. Bear in mind, he might be planning something soon, which might be why he’s talking about it, but I can see where it’s annoying. Keep up with the limited talk, be polite when HE mentions it and of course be honest about plans to move out of state and kids’ names, but alos let him know that you want all of this, but in the right order, and he can’t skip to the end and have 1.5 kids and a dog without getting down on one knee 🙂
Does your SO understand that for a 2012 wedding, you need at least a year’s planning if you want a specific venue, a dress…etc.? Most people hve evening weddings these days, so the reception of punch and cake isn’t always what people picture. Invitations take time, menus take time, guest lists take time. People attending need time to plan for travel and lodging, so unless you want to elope and head for Vegas (which might be fun) and he wants something more traditional, then the wedding needs to start being planned NOW – and you probably don’t want to do any of that until he formally askes you to marry him.