Post # 1
Went to a wedding on the weekend where the couple requested honeymon funds (completely acceptable where i’m from) but also set up a registry for those who prefer to buy them ‘something’.
We happen to be there when they opened one of the boxed gifts – a random ‘retro clock’ for the kitchen. Not from their registry. They were confused.
Out of interest, have any bees done a registry, or requested funds in lieu of gifts & received ‘boxed’ gifts on the day? Did you like them? If not, what did you do with them?
I have no idea what they’ll do with this clock…
Post # 3
@Nic01: I think boxed gifts are going to happen with wedding registries no matter what. Some people don’t want to spend x amount of money on a gift off the registry, others don’t bother to look at the registry, and some want to give more “personalized” gifts. I think in that situation the best thing to do is be polite and say thank you. And I would think some people would include a gift receipt with their gift just in case if the couple wants exchange it, etc. I would personally either donate the gift or keep it for a white elephant christmas exchange or something. 🙂
Post # 4
Do people really include the receipt with the gift?? I’ve never seen that! I guess i also haven’t got married lol
This couple did NOT receive the receipt. I wouldn’t know what to do with it!
Post # 5
I recieved gifts not on my registry and also got the receipt. Though if I remember they were gift receipts. Its where the price the person paid isnt on it.
Post # 6
I see mostly older people giving boxed gifts that are NOT on a registry and do NOT include a gift receipt. I am sure my grandmother’s friends will do this and I know it will annoy me. Haha
Post # 7
We did a honeyfund and for the most part everyone who wanted to give us a gift gave it to us through the website registry or in cards on our wedding day(we actually had a lot of people telling us that they were really happy to not have to go out and actually purchase a gift LOL) We joked that if we received actual gifts on the day we’d Andy Samberg them ala “I threw It On the Ground” (seen here: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=gAYL5H46QnQ) but we actually only received tangible gifts from two people and both gifts were great (a crystal vase and matching bowl from my uncle and his Girlfriend and a cake stand that I’ve actually been really wanting to get from a friend of mine). I don’t know, I think gifts are something that people don’t HAVE to give you, so you should be grateful for whatever you are given. If you can’t use it or return it, keep it and regift it 🙂
Post # 8
I always thought registries were like helpful suggestions, and gifts not on the registry were perfectly acceptable. I think some people (myself included!) like to buy off of registries because you know that it’s something the couple needs/wants and you don’t have to guess, but other people like to do something more personal/creative or just like to come up with gifts on thir own.
Post # 9
I just got 2.. one was a knife cake set, and the other was a beautiful personalized thick leather album with our names and the date of our wedding in it, so we can get it full of memories. I totally loved it, and I was ok with the first one as well.
Post # 10
Well, we have a registry filled with stuff and about half of our shower gifts were off-registry. The ones from our close friends were mostly half-registry half-off-registry (like, they got an item from the registry, and then something else), and the off-registry item was something cool that we’d actually use. Most of the younger family members (below 40) got registry gifts. Most of the older people (distant relatives that my parents are close to, parents’ friends) went rogue and got entirely off-registry gifts, and weird shit that we’ll never use like crystal and stuff. That stuff is getting returned. (There are a few we are keeping – a vase, since we only have one other than that, and an absurdly nice ice cream scoop… however I suspect that the gifter probably remembered how ice-cream obsessed I was as a kid so that wasn’t as blind of a shot as some of the gifts.)
The saddest part is I am pretty sure the people buying off-registry are convinced they got us totally personal gifts since they picked them out themselves. But really most of the ones not from close friends were just… totally not us. So actually less personal than stuff off of the registry because it’s never in a million billion years stuff we would have wanted to buy.
Post # 11
After all this I don’t think I’ll ever buy off the registry again !