Post # 1
My wedding will be this summer in upstate NY (my home town). I have 3 bridesmaids, 2 of which are my sisters, and the 3rd one in a life long friend that lives in North Carolina. Her parents live in the same town the wedding will be in, which is the town we both grew up in. She will be traveling to the town for the wedding and for a visit with her parents.
My questions is:
I want to hire a professional airbrush make-up guy. But for each bridesmaid it will be $90. I haven’t spoken to her about it so I’m not even sure if she would want it done (i’m not making anyone have it).
Am I suppose to pay for her to have the make-up done? Or do I give her the option to have it done as long as she pays for it herself?
With my sisters I feel more comfortable asking them to pitch in towards it becuase I don’t have alot of money. And I also already bought each one a necklace. They all will be paying for there own dress, which I chose, and can wear there own shoes.
I know she will be traveling for the wedding, but she is also combining it with visiting her parents which she would have done anyway so shes not REALLY going that much out of her way with the travel.
What do you think?
Also, anyone have any experience, input on airbrush make-up?
Post # 3
The rule of thumb that I’ve heard most often is if you are requiring a particular look or anything like that then you pay. If you aren’t requiring her to use the airbrush person, then you aren’t required to pay. I did pay for my ladies as a thank you to them for standing up for me.
Post # 4
I think that whatever “policy” you have for one bridesmaid, should go for the others. $90 for makeup is a lot to ask, does the makeup artist have the option of no airbrushing for the bridesmaids? Most of the ones I spoke to in my area recommended airbrushing for the bride, and regular makeup for the bridal party. I chose to offer a makeup artist to my bridal party, which I searched for a decent one at the best price I could, but I gave them the option to do their own if they didn’t want to fork over the dough. I am also covering the tips for hair and makeup to help make it a little easier.
Post # 5
If you require it, you pay. You make it optional, you don’t have to pay.
Just a side note, but if the necklace is something for your wedding, it isn’t really a gift to the BMs. It’s something for you, and your “look”.
Post # 6
I’d say that as long as you’re not requiring it, you don’t have to pay for it.
I offered it up to my maids (and the moms) as ‘I’m having a make-up person come in for me. If anyone else would like to schedule a time slot, let me know. Her prices are XX for regular and XX for airbrush’. It was completely up to them. The moms did regular make-up, one maid chose airbrush for better coverage, and the other chose to do her own makeup. They all just paid her individually.
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@whitums: Most of the ones I spoke to in my area recommended airbrushing for the bride, and regular makeup for the bridal party.
+1, this is what I did. And honestly I coulda gotten regular makeup too!
Post # 8
@andielovesj: do you just go around attacking people on wedding bee and assuming they are torturing their bridesmaids? lol. just been reading your posts and they are all so snarky. didn’t you get married like 2 years ago??
Post # 9
@trustingbride: Yeah that is my goal in life. Torturing people on the internet. Busted.
I’m also not sure how you can tell my tone. I am factual, and honest. But always strive to be polite.
I assume on this thread, that this is what you took issue with, Just a side note, but if the necklace is something for your wedding, it isn’t really a gift to the BMs. It’s something for you, and your “look”.
That is a very commonly held position on the bee. Giving someone something that fits, your personal vision of your event, but not their personal style, isn’t a gift. A gift should be something for the recipient.
Post # 10
As other have said, if you aren’t requiring her to wear makeup then you don’t have to pay for it. But as a side note, I wouldn’t do it without a trial. One of my best friends paid for me to get airbrush makeup when I was her bridesmaid, which was great except that I had an allergic reaction and my entire face broke out.