- 6 years ago
Before I explain the dilemma let me set the stage of our venue and ceremony…
The ceremony is in a rose garden with a long, wide central aisle (only 1 aisle). Unlike traditional ceremonies and due to the setup of the venue, we have to walk down the grass aisle (through the rose garden) to the pavilion toward the guests (who are facing us as we walk). Both my fiance and I will be wearing tea-length white dresses and hope to be walked by our fathers. She will have 4 bridal attendants (all females in dresses), and I will have 5 (2 females in dresses, 1 female in vest and pants, and 2 males in vests and pants). None of my grandparents are still living, and my fiance’s grandfather is not able to make it.
When we first started planning the ceremony, we imagined my mother being escorted by my brother and her mother escorted by her nephew. Next, the bridal attendants would walk down individually. Finally, my fiance with her father and my father and I would all walk down together.
We did not like the idea of having someone go first because 1) it is usually the groom who “waits” for the bride (and we wanted to avoid this tradition) 2) the bride walking down represents the “climax” of the ceremony (weren’t sure how that would work for 2 brides) 3) we would need two bridal entrance songs for the string quartet (can be resolved, but not ideal).
Unfortunately, since the initial planning, I found out that my brother will not be able to make it to the wedding (and therefore there is no one to walk my mother). Likewise, my ultra-conservative/Catholic aunt and uncle (mother’s brother) have chosen not to come–so there is really no family or anyone I can think of to walk my mother.
My mother has suggested that she and my father walk me down and the same for my fiance. However, again it brings us back to having one bride going first.
Our wedding is less than 50 days away, and I am stressing over this! Any advice? Suggestions?