(Closed) Aisle Mama Drama?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Are we twins?? I’m having the same sort of dilemma and haven’t come to a conclusion either, other than to say “F it” and walk by myself or (my favorite solution) is to walk WITH my Fiance. My dad was being rather open one day and said he “WILL” give me away on that day. I said, “Sure, you AND Mom will.” I think either I’m walking alone or walking with my Fiance (OR my third option is to walk down with both of my brothers — I don’t have the space issue) and have my parents BOTH stand up and “give me away.” Complicated? Yeah. But so is life. Just sharing that I’m going through something similar.

If your parents CAN work it out and walk down together, then I say let them. My mother refuses to walk with “that man” because “it will look like we are married.” I was like Okay. I understand that it’s frustrating being put in the middle (TRUST ME – boy do I ever) but it’s something that has to be worked out, and it is your wedding so I can see why she’d expect you to let your father know. Good luck on  your decision – just make sure it’s something YOU are comfortable with. 🙂

Post # 5
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Just saw the flowers question – if you hold your arms low enough you can hold your bouquet and your parents can both link arms with you. That’s what I was thinking when considering having my brothers do it. 🙂

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Isn’t your mom being kind of passive-aggressive by even saying that about your dad? I would tell her that you love and appreciate her, but you do NOT appreciate her starting drama where there is none so if she can’t behave she doesn’t get to walk with you. He’s still your dad whether or not she likes him or not and you said he’s a good dad so why shouldn’t he have the HONOR of walking you down?

Post # 8
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Are you doing a unity candle? I have a similar situation, and even though my dad will be walking me down the aisle, my mother and FI’s mother will be lighting the two sides of the unity candle.

But don’t get me started about speeches/toasts before dinner because that’s where I’m having my “why does he get all this credit” issue…

Post # 9
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5183 posts
Bee Keeper

How about you have your dad or mom walk you into the church and hand you off to the other to walk you for the steps down? this way they both are in the spotlight and can shut up lol

Post # 11
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Tell your mom that her and your dad need to figure out the isle situation…when they come to a conclusion (which they probably won’t), then you’ll honour that decision.  Until then, have your Fiance and you want up the isle together!  It’s no time for drama and it sounds like you’re ready to be rid of that family drama!

Best of luck!

Post # 13
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Helper bee

If I were you I would scrap the parents walking and go with your Fiance walking together. Then I would just have your parents walk in the procession, but separately. If something is causing drama I’d just change it, as I wouldn’t want an extra thing to stress out about or think about while walking down the aisle!

As for the flowers: I did walk down with both of my parents together. I held the flowers in my right hand and linked my left hand over my dad’s elbow. Then, my mom on my right put her hand onto my elbow (which was bent while holding the flowers). Does that make sense?

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