Aisle walk anxiety…

posted 4 months ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I was so nervous I thought I was going to puke! I just kept my eyes on the front with a smile plastered to my face. And my dad provided whispered comedic relief which helped a ton.

I felt fine once I was up there. 😊 

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Green Bay, WI

I was already crying when my dad came and hooked arms with me. I just asked him to make sure I didn’t fall, then I paused in the entryway for a bit longer than normal and just let the crowd of people sink in and stared at my groom for a bit. I casually looked around when I walked down and I waved at a few people (I don’t even remember doing that but there’s photos of me waving, haha) and then from about the halfway point I only looked at my groom. <3

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

You can keep your eyes locked on your bouquet if you wish!!! It’ll be a flattering view for your fiance as well! 🙂 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I almost fell down the stairs during my grand entrance when my foot got caught in my skirt…. so that was fun. But other than that, I don’t remember walking down the aisle. The only person I saw was my husband and everything else was a blur. My dad kept a reassuring hold on my arm because I was having serious issues with my petticoat sticking to my sweaty legs. But honestly it wasn’t that bad, just kee your eyes on your husband and smile and it’ll be okay!! Don’t try to catch other people’s eyes or you might get awkward glancing photos and besides it’s always sweet when a bride and a groom just can’t take their eyes off each other for that moment.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I was nervous about this too, but in the end it was totally fine! I smiled the whole time staring at my fiancé because I was so happy. So happy to see him standing there waiting for me, and seeing everyone who was there helped me too because they all came for us. They came because they love us! Best of luck bee you’ll do great and it lasts such a short time walking down it’ll go quick 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I was nervous too! I had the same anxiety. In the end it was just fine! I stared at my husband the whole time. He was crying, it was so sweet. I was smiling ear to ear. I didn’t notice anyone else in the room. It is soooo quick you’ll be saying your vows before you know it. Best of Luck! So looking forward to pictures! 

 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

This was one of my biggest fears when getting married. I had very bad anxiety about it. On the day…I walked towards my husband and didn’t even think about the other people. I literally only looked at him. In that moment he was all that mattered. 

So wasn’t expecting it..but I’m glad it worked out. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Former dancer, here! Stage fright is a real thing and even professional performers get anxiety before going onstage. Here are a few things I do (or would do):

1- There are a lot of fabulous and confident fat performers/brides/women. I’d watch some videos of them, how they move, how they hold themselves (Example- Lizzo is great!) because being fat doesn’t automatically equal being insecure (though being fat is a frequent point of judgment and knowing you’re likely being judged can trigger anxiety).

2- Practice walking in your shoes so you have a feel for them (and don’t have to worry about tripping)

3- You will be the “Star” so whatever you do has the potential to be “right” as long as you are (or appear) confident. If you move slowly (because you are nervous) but deliberately, that’s fine. If you pause a bit because you see people you recognize and you want to acknowledge them- that’s fine, too. Look at your Fiance and take slow, deep breaths and that will help immensely.

4- Fear can feel the same in our bodies as excitement so if there’s a way that you can tell yourself that you are jumpy with excitement, that can change how you’re feeling and thinking about the walk.

Most importantly – make sure to breath and keep in mind that what feels excrutiatingly slow to you is actually going quite quickly so if you focus on breathing and really taking in the day, that will help (and also keep you from getting to the end of the day and feeling like everything went in a blur).

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I wish I could say I looked at my husband. I tried to. But honestly I got super distracted. We got married at an underwater dolphin viewing area of the zoo and as I walked down the aisle I could see all 5 dolphins staring at me. They got really excited about the music and were bobbing around looking right into the ceremony space. 

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

TwilightRarity :  haha. It was!!!! The whole ceremony I kept sneaking glances at them. When our recessional song signed sealed delivered came on I distinctly remember them whizzing back and forth crisscrossing around. 

It’ll the zoo had the dolphin experts up top with toys and treats for them so they were doing tons stuff. 

OP: nerves are normal and stage fright is real!! There’s no right way to do it. You’ll be great and beautiful!!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn

citizenerased14 :  I just got married May 4th. I was worried about this as well. I hate being the center of attention! However, when it came down to that time I was super nervous! And then once we started walking I totally forgot about all eyes on me. I made eye contact with a few guests, smiled at them, then concentrated on my husband at the end of the aisle. It was kind of like tunnel vision. I wasn’t thinking in that moment about everyone looking at me, judging my hair, makeup, dress etc.

So my suggestion is to make eye contact with a few guests along the way and then just concentrate on your soon to be hubby! I promise it will all be ok! 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Everyone also knows that you’re nervous as, and everyone understands! If anyone dares to point out how nervous / awkward you looked, I vote for you to cut them out of your life. Yep.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

xraychick01 :  yay!! I also got married on May 4th!!

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