Aisle walk anxiety…

posted 4 months ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
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Helper bee

They are not judging your dress, hair and makeup. They are staring at you because they have never seen you this done up and you will take their breaths away. You will find a few familiar and comfortable faces in the crowd and smile at them or share a small laugh as you pass by and as you are closing in you will probably end up staring at your fiance. And you will have your Dad with you ๐Ÿ™‚ You got this.

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn

almk87 :  congratulations!! It was a great day! 

Post # 18
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561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I couldn’t sleep over this anxiety, I mean literally my palms sweat, heart thumping at the thought of it and guess what, MY VEIL CAME OFF THE MOMENT I WALKED IN THE ROOM!!! The man closing our ceremony door stood on my gad darn veil and it came flying off. You would think I would  die right there on the spot but I simply turned back to my guests and said “I’ll just be with you guys in 2 minutes” and everyone chuckled. All I then remember is my fiance’s face, I didn’t look at nothing but him. If I can handle that with the veil coming off am sure you will be ok, good luck and have the best day!

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

This isn’t helpful I figured I would say:

I’m just gonna cry the whole time. I will have zero control over my emotions and I’m just gonna go with the flow of tears. I don’t have the ability or time to get anxious about it because I already know that what happens is something I will not be able to control XD

(Also, happy 9 days, date twin ๐Ÿ˜‰ )

Post # 20
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930 posts
Busy bee

Okay so, here are options I have considered:

1. As you walk down up to the pew/seat area, initally look at father or person escorting you and then at your bouquet.

2. When you get the rows of seats, smile at guests, both sides (but turn your head to face them for that moment, dont glance from the side of your eye, and also, smile at the general left and right side)

3. When youre halfway up, look up at your man and smile with your heart, youre about to marry that man. 

4. you’re done!

 

Either that or just walk down together with your FH or bridesmaids…no rules to it ๐Ÿ™‚

 

 

Post # 21
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328 posts
Helper bee

I am not sure if this idea will make you more nervous or will get you to relax. You can get some one to distribute flowers to those who are sitting vlose to the aisle. These guests will give you flowers as you walk down the aisle. As you get the flowers from the guests one by one, you can calm down and relax because they are also participating with you in the process. 

The only other thing that I can say is focus on the moment. Let your acitions sink. You will be getting married to your favourite man. You will notice that every one will get blocked. 

I attended a wedding where the bride and groom greeted the guests as they arrived. She was so calm and relaxed when she later walked down the aisle. 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

I also had anxiety about this, and I walked halfway down the aisle alone before my wife came to meet me and walk the rest of the way with me (planned, of course), so that was also terrifying.

Some things that helped me:

1. I felt genuinely beautiful in my dress with my hair and makeup done. Like, I was surprised by how beautiful I felt. One of my biggest fears was that I would look too done up, my hair wouldn’t look right, my arms would look too chubby, I’d have a derpy look on my face, etc. But once I was done up, all of that anxiety disappeared and that helped a ton.

2. Just before the curtain opened for my entrance, I stared down at my bouquet and took some deep breaths, and I paused a moment before I actually started walking, even after the curtains opened. I took my time and reminded myself to breathe. I continued to stare down at my bouquet for my first few steps down the aisle because I was afraid if I looked up, I’d freak out lol.

3. When I did finally look up, I looked directly at my now wife in order to center myself and remind myself what was really important in that moment. Her teary eyes and smile calmed me down instantly, and I couldn’t wait to get to her. Everyone else seemed to just disappear in that moment.

4. I reminded myself the whole time that every person in that room was someone who loved and cared about me and genuinely wanted to be there and celebrate us on our day. The one time I did glance into the crowd, all I saw were smiling faces full of joy and love.

Breathe Bee. You will be okay. And honestly, the walk is only a few moments of the day. It will go by SO fast, and before you know it, you’ll be standing up there with the person you love taking your vows!

Post # 23
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452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

citizenerased14 :  Hi Bee i got married in May and I am so clumsy and got married on grass so I definately was full of nerves at the thought of walking down an aisle while everyone watched me.  I am so grateful I had my dad walk me as he was talking to me right before we started walking just basically said “ok ready? left foot right foot etc… it made me giggle and eased my nerves and it really calmed me.  If you’re nervous when you get to your entrance just tell your dad and he will make you feel better ๐Ÿ™‚ He will know just what to say and do.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

citizenerased14 :  I was also super nervous about this, like everyone expected me to look/act a certain way. So I talked casually w my dad down the aisle, just softly talking about how nervous I was, and that definitely cut the tension a little. I also just said to myself that I can act however I want and it’s no big deal- just let yourself off the hook a little bit. 

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