(Closed) Aisle walking dilemma. Choose or go it alone?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

wh ydoesn’t you grandma walk you down?

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Choose whomever you feel most comfortable with and whom it feels “right” to walk you down.  Everyone else will have to get over it.  My vote is for the father figures in your life.  It’s hard to tell without details of why you weren’t raised by your mom and dad – but if you feel closer with your uncles than I would do that.  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

What about having your biological Mum walk you half way down the aisle to Mama…and Mama can walk you from there thus being the one to “give you away?”

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@sapphiregriffin:  Wow you sound like me.  I have a very devoted mother and a friend of the family who has been my father figure (he’s married) and my father, whom I have a very strained relationship with.  I invited him to the Wedding, but I was going to walk myself down the aisle in order to avoid hurt feelings.  Then, I decided no one can argue that my mother didn’t earn that right with all that she sacrificed in being a single parent.  So, as much as I love everyone, I need someone there beside me who has my best interest at heart and who I truly want by my side when I’m escorted down the aisle.

I chose my mom and to be honest, if people who care about me can’t see why, they don’t belong in my life. Good luck.. I know it’s hard, but do what feels right.  You’ll never get everyone to e 100% on-board with every decision you make, but at least having the important people on board is possible.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It really is up to you. You are going to hurt someone’s feelings no matter what you do, so go with your gut. What would make you the most comfortable on the day of your wedding?

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I vote for walking yourself down the aisle and have them all stand up to respond when asked who gives the bride away, or whatever wording you plan to use. Any choice you make will have drawbacks, but that doesn’t make it wrong. There probably isn’t a perfect solution, just the one that is best for you. And they love you, they’ll understand whatever you decide.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think your Grandmother is the best choice, based on history.

Good luck with your decision.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I have a similar situation – my father died when I was 13 and so cannot walk me down the aisle.  My mother and I used to be close when I was a lot younger, but this is no longer the case and I only see and talk to her a couple of times in a year – it is by choice – I was originally going to ask her to walk me down the aisle just because ‘she’s my mum’ but put it simply, she is a cruel woman and I no longer feel like she loves me any more (that sounds highly exaggerated but it is what it is, and I don’t want to have to tell the whole story) – and put it more simply, if I didn’t have to invite her to my wedding, I probably won’t. 

Anyway, that leaves two other choices – my grandma (mum’s mum) or my uncle (mum’s brother).  I think I am leaning towards my Grandma simply because she is the eldest and it just feels right. Your situation doesn’t sound as easy because it sounds like your relationship with your bio mum is a good one.  Tough call. 

You could always have two people walk you down the aisle – both your Mama and your mother.

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