Post # 1
Hi Bees! My Future Mother-In-Law just broke up with her Boyfriend or Best Friend of 11 years! We’re all a little shocked and sad.
Here’s my dilemna: exStepFIL-to-be bought us a LazyBoy recliner as a wedding gift 2 years ago. I never sent a formal thank you or anything (although we thanked him verbally a few times).
With MIL’s blessing we’d like to invite him and his grown children to the wedding. I want him to know that we truly want him there, from the bottom of our hearts. Also, I don’t want him to feel obligated to buy us another gift. Can I send him an invite AND a thank-you card for the recliner at the same time? In separate envelopes? Or, is there a better way of going about this?
Post # 3
Honestly, at a time like this, I would just call him tell him you feel about the recliner, you would love him to come and he should expect an invitation in the mail.
Post # 4
I would run it past your Future Mother-In-Law before inviting him. If it was a bad break-up, she might not want him there, and she gets priority at her son’s wedding. If that happens, you can always write the boyfriend a note, thanking him again for the gift, explaining how much he means to you and how you hope he’ll remain part of your lives, but you’re sure he can understand not being able to invite him to the wedding.
Hopefully your Future Mother-In-Law will be okay with him being there though.
Post # 5
I agree – you’ve got to get your FMIL’s okay on this first.
Post # 6
As you do say “With MIL’s blessing” , it is obvious that Mother-In-Law either approves of the invitation or that you plan to get her ok before inviting him.
As far as the invitation and the thank- you note are concerned, I would send them in separate envelopes. I would also tuck in a little hand written note with the invitation expressing your heartfelt desire that they attend the wedding.
Post # 7
Yes- Mother-In-Law requested it. If she hadn’t I would have asked her but before I could bring it up, she did and said I NEED to invite Dave.
@julies1949 I think that’s a great idea!