Post # 1
So I spent thankgiving with my boyfriend and his family. I knew i would get tons of when are you getting married questions so i was prepared to bear it. His family only asked us a few times. Then we went to one of his good friends place. His friend, lets call him David. David is introcuding my bf and I to his family and he says this is Marie Taylor my boy’s finance! Umm we are NOT engaged. I could not believe it. I immediatly hid my hand, and felt so self consious all the woman were giving me congrats and i felt super awakrd. Then! I had to endure a tons of wedding related questions and from the older woman al ecture on marriage, and giving the cow away from free. I got bereated b/c I didnt ahve a ring. My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I were trying to be polite and like leave the conversation. It was sooo akward. I wanted to kill his friend. Who does taht!!!!! BOOOOO
Post # 3
Ohhh….so not fun. 🙁 I’m sorry you had to deal with that. I’m sure your BFs friend was trying to be silly, but it ended up being awkward for you. It sounds like you handled it gracefully, which is something to be proud of. 🙂
Post # 4
@marietaylor: …Oh my God!!!! I can’t believe he did that! I’m sure it wasn’t intentional…but still! I’m so sorry you had to go through that. It must of been so weird.
Post # 5
@marietaylor: Oh man!! That is a major BOOOOOO. I agree with PP’s who said he probably didn’t mean it like that, was trying to be funny (even so, that guy has a weird sense of humor). But still that sucks and I’m sorry you had to go through that 🙁
Post # 6
I would have smacked him!
Post # 7
Eeks! What a humourless moron! Not only are you awkward, but others will feel stupid too for congratulating you guys when they find out that it hasn’t even happened yet. (And hopefully one of them will smack him!)
Post # 8
*sigh* Definitely awkward…sorry to hear that you were in this situation. The holidays always make people ask questions like that. Sounds like you handled the situation with as much grace and politeness as anyone couild.
Post # 9
Ughh, what a jerk! Even if he was joking, it’s still not cool. I would have turned it around on him, and immediately corrected him, and made him feel like the idiot he is! I’m sorry you had to deal with that, and PPs are right, he needs a good smack upside his head!
Post # 10
What a jerk! I’m sorry all those women were after you and even berating you because of no ring. (what if you WERE engaged with no ring? rude!)
Post # 11
why are people calling the guy a jerk?? it doesnt seem he was being mean about it and by the sounds of your previous thread you might be engaged by the end of this year so if your boyfriend is in the midst of planning a proposal and ring then to his friends its a done deal, he doesnt seem to have any ill intention in the introduction, just totally unsavy about it
doesnt explain the cow for free & no engagement ring biotching from the women but oh well – welcome to the life of an soon to be engaged couple, everyrone is going to have an opinion and will happily give it to you for free 🙂
Post # 12
Oh thats terrible..
But at Thanksgiving at my parents house yesterday my mother called my boyfriend my husband… I did not appreciate that! Especially since he is apparently nowhere near proposing to me!
Post # 13
I think some people just give you the title because they think that is the role you should have…. I too spent Thanksgiving with my boyfriends family and his father already introduces me as his daughter and refers to my Boyfriend or Best Friend as my husband…I just go with the flow and explain lightly if the conversation goes in a “wedding” direction…
eta: I also directed most questions to my boyfriend since we were in his surroundings…
Post # 14
I went to Thanksgiving at a co-workers house with my boyfriend and my co-worker introduced my boyfriend as my friend to everyone. She knows he is my boyfriend and has known the whole 1.5 years we have been dating. It wasn’t embarassing, just strange.
However, my mother is showing everyone the brooches I have to make a brooch bouquet (gotta plan those suckers early) for my hypothetical wedding. Strange, strange people I know.
Post # 15
I think most of us dealt with this somehow.
My parents don’t really ask questions. And my SO’s family knows that I am patiently (*ahem*) waiting on him so they don’t really ask questions either.
But we spent some time with my SO’s SIL’s friends. And I had the following WONDERFUL dialogue with the SIL’s friend (let’s call her X):
X: Good to see you again!
Me: Good to see you too!
X: So when are you and SO getting married?
Me: I don’t know…that’s up to him.
X: Well when did you get engaged?
Me: We’re not engaged yet. Just waiting on him.
X: Well, who’s holding out…you or him?
X: Well y’all have been dating for a long time, right?
Me: Yup, 3.5 years.
X: And y’all live together right?
Me: Yup, he lives with me
X: And you’re not engaged yet?
X: Oh. Well it’s about time.
Me: Yup, it is.
Gee, like I don’t look forward to THAT conversation over and over again. And right out of the gate this time! Way to not tiptoe around the subject with small talk!
Post # 16
I know how you feel…in a way. We ARE engaged but everyone calls him my husband or me his wife. At work they ask how my husband is and at his dad’s thanksgiving his dad’s Fiance introduced me as his wife. It’s strange hearing that, especially when we had just been talking about the wedding plans.