Post # 1
I had a very annoying weight comment the other day that I thought I’d share. Here’s the deal:
I was in a shop trying on clothes and the skinny little shop girl says to me, “Oh my god, that looks so good on you, you should be a plus sized model!”
Ummm…talk about a back handed compliment? I’m not petit in the least, but I don’t consider myself plus sized. I’m 5’10” and wear a size 10 which I think is perfectly reasonable. I think she knew she put her foot in it the moment the words came out of her mouth and I just pretended it didn’t phase me… but all I could think was there is NO WAY I’m buying this shirt.
And yes, several years ago when I gained 20 lbs on a really bad semester or two in college I had an aquaintance ask me if I was expecting. Ugh! To be fair though I always gain ALL my weight in the stomach (heart disease risk over here!).
How about you? Have you ever had people stick their foot in it by commenting about your weight?
Post # 3
Ouch. I hate it when people talk without thinking.
Post # 4
Yes. I’ve always been petite 5’2″ 100 and something pounds but I always had a little pouch in my stomach. Even when I weighted like 90 something pounds people would ask me if I was preggos. When I got a little older I gained like 25 pounds and people were always asking me if I’m pregnant I was like, “un no, I’m not even married yet” I mean people just need to learn to mind their own business. Like the old saying goes if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it at all.
Post # 5
I was at Wal Mart and the check out lady asked when I was due!
I’m not by any means overweight, I just have a little too much weight in the tummy. Needless to say this made me terribly upset.
Post # 6
I haven’t had this happen, but I have to say I don’t think it’s anyone’s business even if gals are preggos. I mean if we wanted you to know the due date, we’d let you know!
Post # 7
Oh gosh, I’m sorry…please don’t this bother you for days. It was definitely rude of her to make any mention to your size..whether you are small, big or right in the middle. Sometimes people say things and I don’t think they understand what they are saying.
I was at my favorite make-up counter a couple months ago and I asked the woman who was doing my make-up what it took to work there. I was expecting something along the lines of…submit your resume, etc….No, instead she tells me to look at all the girls who work there and says..”well..you have to look like one us.”
So, I guess I didn’t make the cut..I told this to my mom and all my friends, we all just laughed so hard. I would not trade my looks for any one of the girls there. Just be happy for who you are!! She did say you should be a model!
Post # 8
Im sorry to hear that.. over the weekend I was looking for my dream wedding dress and the consultant kept saying… “We don’t carry that in your size”. As if I wasn’t already bummed that im not what I was before I had my son, she threw this in my face. I dont understand why they act like we are from another planet.
P.S. Didn’t buy my dress from that store (DB)
Post # 9
@daniella – don’t worry, I’m not crying myself to sleep over it. It was more of an OH SNAP moment than anything else.
Post # 10
After walking around Manhattan all afternoon in flip flops, I complained that my feet hurt. FFIL reasoned it was because I had to “carry all that weight around all day”. The oddest part is that I’m not really overweight (5’7″, 128 lbs, pretty solid muscle since I work out almost everyday). He’s made other comments and tends to critique what I eat, and I can only deduce that he really does think I’m fat and need to drop a few. FMIL is very petite, half a ft shorter that me and VERY small framed. I sometimes think he sees us next to each other and is afraid I’m going to reach over the crush her.
Post # 11
My cousin who I hadn’t seen in a good 8 years or so came to visit us at my Nana’s house last year and when I walked in the door he hugged me and said “Oh you’ve gotten so big!” as in, I’ve grown up a lot. To which my nana replies “Yeah, and not taller!” Ouch…. from my own nana!
Post # 12
bear in mind that most plus sized models ARE a size 10, or even a size 8. wrap your head around THAT one, ugh.
i’ve been asked if i was pregnant a few times – once by a child, when i was wearing an apron at work, and once by a border crossing guard, when i was sitting strangely with my hands under my stomach. it doesn’t really bug me – i KNOW i’m not skinny, and i figure that i can’t justify being offended if i don’t fully dedicate myself to losing weight.
Post # 13
Wow, that’s a rude comment. Even if plus-size models were all a size 8, it’d still be rude in my mind because she’s taking the time to distinguish “plus-size.” Totally not her place.
When I worked at a shoe store last year, I was helping a woman find a pair of boots and recommended a certain brand. She looks at me and goes, “yeah, but would they work for me? I mean, your calves are big.”
Come on! I ride horses, of course they’re going to be muscular. But you don’t have to point it out.
Post # 14
Yeah but realistically (i’m 5’10” and about the same size as you; i’ve heard this before also many times), she meant it as a compliment. And anybody size 6 and up is considered a “plus sized model” anyways. You have to be a 0-4 to be a “regular sized” model. She easily could’ve left the “plus sized” part out of the “model” compliment though!
Post # 15
Aww sweetie Im sorry! I get the plus sized model comment alot actually. Im actually “very” plus sized compaired to you. Im 5’5 and I wear an 18/20 street size. Im sure she probably thought it as a compliment (although it did not come out that way).
Post # 16
Yes, I don’t know what it is about being engaged but some how people just feel like they can comment on your weight! As if becoming engaged means we all have to loose 50 lbs! Since I brought my dress everyone in my office has been telling me I better not gain any weight & commenting on everything I eat!