(Closed) Awkward weight comments

posted 12 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 47
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am 5’11” and a size 10/12 depending on what it is! I am smaller up top can even wear some 8’s however definitly a 12 on the bottom but it is not real noticable! I have a but and thighs! I just got done training for and running a marathon and with my body shape I think it made it all bigger! Anyway I think I look great, healthy at that! I am very muscular and have a remotely flat stomach! However, I am sure I get looks from people thinking I am BIG! Well I am tall and I would rather be a size 10 than a 2! I think really tall skinny women look funny! ๐Ÿ™‚ My mom is also my size and it is funny to go out with her cause we get lots of “hey good looking” looks from men! ๐Ÿ™‚ Be Proud!

Post # 48
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

OMG backhanded compliments I have one of those

when I was 14 my next door neighbour said “youve lost weight you look great!” I know right..it’s an ok compliment whats so bad about that??? well………..she then said “yeah I was really worried about you before, your were so obese I was going to tell your mum to send you to my house for a few weeks I would fed you properly just look at my kids (age 3 and 7 by the way) their not fat” I could have died worse thing is what do you say to such a helpful neighbour hmmm….???

Down right rude?? Yep got one of those too

Flash forward age 20 went on holidays stopped at a horse riding place the chick asked our weights we told her and there was a 8 kilo difference between mine and my friends. “Well” the woman said pointing to my friend “you I can just fit on a horse” points at me “we have no horses to cater for ppl your size”. What “cater for ppl my size” it was just too funny (in fact its been the catchphrase of our family ever since). So with my friend in tears we went to the next place and I asked him if I was to fat to ride his horses he looked shocked but upon explaining the situation to him he agreed she was a B*#CH and assured us his horses catered for ppl our size then he fitted us in to the next trail ride even though this pushed the numbers up meaning he had to come along as well (with two broken ribs god bless him).

Post # 49
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I gained a lot of weight after college I think from being depressed. I’m short and have a small frame, so I quickly show when I’ve gained only a few pounds, but in this case I had gained like 25 lbs. 

I went to my niece’s bday party (a big family to-do) and my Gmom ran right up to me and said “Wow, Moderdaisy, you’ve put on weight!” I was shocked and didn’t know what to say and it was obvious everyone around us was shocked too so she quickly covered up with “But it looks good, you’ve filled out it’s very womanly”. (It didn’t look good, By The Way, I was actually overweight and looked unhealthy). I muttered something like “Oh wow, I didn’t notice” and ran and called my sister crying. 

Since then I’ve lost all the weight and I think I look great – but now since that happened to me, I NEVER comment on anyone’s weight. Not that I did before, but I’m very conscious of keeping mum even behind peoples backs. It is such a sensitive subject and I never want to make anyone feel self conscious or like I’m analyzing them.

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

YES… a few years ago, I was working as a cashier at Wal-Mart while I was in school.  One of my friends from high school’s mom happened to be in town because my friend’s brother went to the same university that I attended.  Mind you, I hadn’t seen this woman (or my friend) in at LEAST 3 or 4 years at the time.  She comes up to me and says hi all excitedly and we have typical “haven’t seen you in years” chitchat.  Then, she has the nerve to say “You’ve gained weight, haven’t you?  It looks good on you though.”

….. it wouldn’t have been SO bad if it had been TRUE.  LoL.  I’d actually dropped 20 pounds since high school at that point.  *sigh*  Why do people comment on weight at all??  Rude!

Post # 51
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Hi,

Just the other day, a former coworker told me that I was pregnant. I said no, just chunky and she said “oh come on, your’e pregnant!” I told her no again and looked at her with a kind of hurt face. I know I gained weight but you never tell a woman they are pregnant unless you know, especially if they told you twice they were not. I also relate because I am 5’11 and over 160 lbs. I know I need to lose weight but I know I am not plus sized. People just should shut up sometimes:)

Post # 52
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143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

When my sister was pregnant, my niece walked up and patted my stomach and using my nickname, said, “Shisha, do you have a baby in your belly too?”

LOL! Kids say the darndest. I said, “No Punkin, Shisha is just fat!” ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 53
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ve never been on either side of this one, thank God – I’m just plain old fashioned fat, lol – but I think I’ll never ever ask any woman when she’s due unless I know a lot about her pregnancy already.

My sis in law was huge on her second, and even TWO WEEKS after giving birth, she still looked exactly the same. Her belly did not seem to have changed at all. So she still looked very heavily pregnant. Cautionary tale!

Post # 54
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ll play devil’s advocate for a bit. If the the sales assistant in the shop lives-eats-breathes fashion, then she probably thought she was paying OP a huge (no pun intended) compliment by saying she could be a plus-size model. In the fashion world, a size 10 is considered plus-size.

With that said, I don’t consider size 10 to be plus size.

Post # 55
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143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Birdie Love: I think you’re probably right about her intending to be giving a nice compliment. I might take that comment as a compliment simply because I woul.d LOVE to be a size 10. That’s my goal for this year: get from a size 16 to a 10 for my wedding day. The good news is that I don’t know when my wedding day is going to be for sure…. so I can adjust it if I don’t meet my goal in time!…. maybe! I would marry him tomorrow if I coud, I’m not gonna hold off just cuz of a few too many love handles. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 56
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

The comment “You have a real pretty face”  while looking your body up and down. I hate that comment, and I know, people honestly think there being nice when there saying it, but for me its a instant nose dive on my self esteem. It almost makes me feel like, they cant believe that a plus size woman can be beautiful and big at the same time, its either one or the other… I just want to say, Oh were you thinking I was going to be less attractive?

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