Post # 1
I just saw a story on GMA about a mother who was arrested at a restaurant in Arkansas for consuming alcohol while BFing. The charge was endangering a minor.
The mother says she had 2 beers that were spaced out, and the waitress who wasn’t serving her but turned her in, says that she has multiple beers in front of her (although she was not at the restaurant alone, so how does a waitress who isn’t serving her know how many she’s had?).
The waitress who turned her in has an infant of her own, and she texted her mom about the situation, and her mom told her to call the police. She said it was the same thing as putting alcohol on the baby’s bottle.
The charges were later dropped, and the waitress was fired.
I personally don’t see anythingn wrong with having a drink or two while BFing. I certainly don’t think the mom should have been arrested for it!
What are your thoughts on this situation? Let’s keep this civil please 🙂
Post # 2
I think that waitress should have minded her own business.
I’m glad the charges were dropped and the waitress was fired. That’s the sort of thing that irritates me so much. I’m looking forward to TTC, but I am not looking forward to the pregnancy and nursing nazis that are going to be watching my every move sanctimoniously.
Post # 3
CaroBee: Everyone has an opinion about everything while you’re pregnant…and they’re not afraid to tell you what they are! It’s very annoying.
Post # 4
Cory_loves_this_girl: I know that the hospital back home will give women a beer if they’re gaving trouble getting their milk to come in. My sister was told that as long as you’re not actually getting DRUNK then it’s generally okay. A glass or 2 here and there isn’t going to hurt the baby.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Unless she was chugging beers with the baby hanging off her boob the waitress had no business getting involved and even then I hesitate for someone to get involved in a matter that doesn’t involve them. For all the waitress knew, the mom was going to pump and dump at home before feeding her baby. Plus, I don’t see anything wrong with a beer here and there even while breastfeeding, just so long as mom isn’t tipsy or drunk.
Post # 6
Cory_loves_this_girl: My mil was advised to drink milk stout when she had trouble breast-feeding. In moderation as far as I understand but the funny thing is it worked, it increased her milk supply. My grandparents were told to dip my fathers dummy into brandy everynight before giving it to him, he was born with knotted intestines so he needed the alcohol else he wouldn’t sleep. My dad is perfectly fine, in fact he is one of the healthiest and strongest people I know. I understand the second is a very specific case.
Many doctors allow pregnant women to have a glass of red wine every once in a while they are pregnant so I don’t really see a difference. If she wasn’t drunk or drinkly excessively or breast feeding at that point it is ridiculous
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I think that whomever signed off for filing the charges should be fired, too. People need to learn to mind their own damn business. Think whatever you like, but keep it all in your (general use of the term) crazy head and don’t inflict it on the rest of the world.
Post # 8
It’s not something I would do, but if someone else chooses to do it (responsibly) and poses no harm to their child, that’s fine by me.
Post # 9
In the olden days (my grandparents’ generation), women were encouraged to drink stout whilst breastfeeding… it was a good deal cleaner than the water, and helped their milk come in.
Post # 10
I also wanted to add that this could be seen as another reason for women to fear BFing in public. It’s really unfortunate.
Post # 11
I have no issue with the lady drinking a few beers- IMO that’s fine to do and if it harmed babies my German/Irish family tree would be littered with FAS babies (it’s not). BUT I sort of also feel bad for the waitress. She’s probably not really that educated about things, has been scared by purtianical culture that beer is the devil, called her MOM who probably started that whole upbringing for advice and now she’s fired. It’s all because we as a culture OFTEN nag, henpeck, butt into women’s lives when pregnant or with an infant under the guise of protecting children. She didn’t single handedly start that culture. She just got swept up in it and isn’t good at critical thinking or well read in scientific literature. She’s a waitress. Well now she’s unemployed because she did what she thought (completely incorrectly) that she was doing the right thing.
Post # 12
There is no issue with drinking while breasfeeding if it’s done in moderation. Certain types of beers actually help to increase milk production.
Having her arrested? People need to mind their own business. It’s hard to get the full story here…was this this lady obviously drunk/stumbling and her baby was currently breastfeeding at that moment? Or was the baby just there? How do we know how many she had to drink? ETC.
Post # 13
kes18: The mother said she had two beers. She said they were spaced out while she was there (wasn’t downing them). She was BFing while drinking beer. She said she was sober enough to be BFing. She is a mother of 3.
The waitress who called it in to the police was not the waitress serving her. She was there for a meeting and says she saw multiple glasses of beer on the table. She is also a mother to an infant. She did not say that the woman appeared drunk. She basically equated any amount of alcohol while BFing to putting straight alcohol into a baby’s bottle. Her mom told her to call the cops.
Post # 14
How sad that she had to go through that!
I am personally the most careful person EVER, but when Dirty Delete was 3 months old, and I was with friends on NYE, I had a glass of wine without guilt!
If you feel the alcohol, so will baby. A drink or two spead out is not going to accumulate enough in your Bridesmaid or Best Man to cause harm.
Post # 15
Cory_loves_this_girl: This story bothers me SO MUCH for different reasons. ( I think drinking while Boyfriend or Best Friend is ok in moderation, I will probably follow the “OK to drive, ok to nurse” rule) Clearly if you a shit faced you probably shouldnt nurse lol, but a beer or two while eating is likely fine.
First, she was ARRESTED for doing nothing illegal. That scares the hell out of me. Guily until proven innocent? What is wrong with that cop? (Seriously, my Fiance is a cop, I don’t think this was a normal reaction. If the cop was concerned that she was intoxicated he should have told her to not nurse for a bit, make sure she doesn’t drive home ect maybe have someone sober come and get the baby…not ARREST HER)
Additionally ,at the very least that cop should have gotten PROOF that she was intoxicated by offering a breathalyzer if he was going to arrest her
How does that not scare everyone that you can be arrested for nothing??
Second, the waitress is a busybody who was rightfully fired and should have minded her own business. (Remind me not to visit AR, K?) haha
If I was that mother I would be suing the police department, waitress and restaurant. So ridiculous!