Post # 1
One thing that has been on my mind and I can’t quite decide on what to do is whether or not to have alcohol at the reception or not?! My situation is that my fiance’s family is very churchy, which is fine I love God too, but some of them can be very old fashioned conservative. My family is the exact opposite! Most of them drink, smoke, swear in every sentence….so it will be an interesting mix at our wedding. I know that for the most part they will all be civil and get along and things will be fine, but would alcohol be a good idea? Or if I had it, how should I do it? Thoughts?
Post # 3
I think you should have alcohol at the reception. Your family will drink it, and his family can certainly decline to get any drinks during the reception. I don’t think it’s fair to forego alcohol completely just because his side of the family doesn’t drink.
Post # 4
I’m in almost exactly the same situation as you. FH’s family RARELY drink. Mine drink like there’s no tomorrow. We’re having an open bar. After all, those who don’t want alcohol can choose not to drink it and have juice or water instead. So we’re not totally alienating them. But we’re also hosting a party so it’s a nice thing to serve alcohol (in my family’s eyes at least).
Post # 5
Thanks! That is what I was leaning toward, it has just always been an issue for me to not disappoint his family or have them think badly of me.
Post # 6
If you want to have alcohol, go for it! : ) I know that a lot of people consider dry weddings to be “boring”, from what I’ve heard on the Bee. As long as no one is a recovering alcoholic or something like that, there’s no reason why your fiance’s family members can’t just abstain (or partake, if they wish!). The only thing you might want to be aware of is the budgetary impact of booze. It REALLY takes a chunk out of your wallet, especially if you’re having an open bar. Maybe just do beer & wine? That might be “classy” enough to avoid any scathing looks from your fiance’s side of the family, and still make yours happy that they have something to toast you with! : )
Post # 7
Well when you talk about money…isn’t there a type of car you can get at some places where the guests pay for what they want themselves? I’m not very educated in this wedding stuff, i’m a “newbee” 😉
Post # 8
i think you should have alcohol at the reception. not having it just negates your side of the family even having a choice. at least your FI’s family will have a choice to decline if they choose not to drink.
i am not a drinker myself and either is most of my family… most of FI’s family doesn’t either, but a lot our friends and other guests do, so we are having alcohol to appease our guests… and of course FI!
Post # 9
Does his family dance? How uncomfortable are they around alcohol?
I was a Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding like this, grooms side didn’t drink brides side did. But grooms side sat during the entire reception and looked pissed off (no one at the wedding was even remotely drunk). I was so annoyed with them. They didn’t make any effort to talk to anyone except other family members and literally didn’t get up from their dinner tables the entire evening. It was odd and uncomfortable. So I donno, I’d try to figure out a way that both sides will be comfy but it would stink if because of how they live their lives that they prevent you from having alcohol, even Jesus liked wine at weddings.
Post # 10
I’m a recovering alcoholic and so are several of the guests. We plan on serving beer and wine, but will have lots of fun nonalcoholic drinks. It’s no fun being stuck with diet coke or water when everyone’s enjoying the latest pretty cocktail.
We’re thinking ginger or root beer, maybe Jones’ soda, and some sparkling green tea.
Non-alcoholic champagne’s out, it looks too similar to regular champagne and is easy to confuse–I don’t want to have that mix-up happen!