(Closed) Alcohol at the reception??

posted 8 years ago in Food
Post # 3
2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you should have alcohol at the reception.  Your family will drink it, and his family can certainly decline to get any drinks during the reception.  I don’t think it’s fair to forego alcohol completely just because his side of the family doesn’t drink.

Post # 4
2779 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m in almost exactly the same situation as you. FH’s family RARELY drink. Mine drink like there’s no tomorrow. We’re having an open bar. After all, those who don’t want alcohol can choose not to drink it and have juice or water instead. So we’re not totally alienating them. But we’re also hosting a party so it’s a nice thing to serve alcohol (in my family’s eyes at least).

Post # 6
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

If you want to have alcohol, go for it! : ) I know that a lot of people consider dry weddings to be “boring”, from what I’ve heard on the Bee. As long as no one is a recovering alcoholic or something like that, there’s no reason why your fiance’s family members can’t just abstain (or partake, if they wish!). The only thing you might want to be aware of is the budgetary impact of booze. It REALLY takes a chunk out of your wallet, especially if you’re having an open bar. Maybe just do beer & wine? That might be “classy” enough to avoid any scathing looks from your fiance’s side of the family, and still make yours happy that they have something to toast you with! : )

Post # 8
2703 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i think you should have alcohol at the reception. not having it just negates your side of the family even having a choice. at least your FI’s family will have a choice to decline if they choose not to drink.

i am not a drinker myself and either is most of my family… most of FI’s family doesn’t either, but a lot our friends and other guests do, so we are having alcohol to appease our guests… and of course FI!

Post # 9
2820 posts
Sugar bee

Does his family dance?  How uncomfortable are they around alcohol?

I was a Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding like this, grooms side didn’t drink brides side did.  But grooms side sat during the entire reception and looked pissed off (no one at the wedding was even remotely drunk).  I was so annoyed with them.  They didn’t make any effort to talk to anyone except other family members and literally didn’t get up from their dinner tables the entire evening. It was odd and uncomfortable.  So I donno, I’d try to figure out a way that both sides will be comfy but it would stink if because of how they live their lives that they prevent you from having alcohol, even Jesus liked wine at weddings. 

Post # 10
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m a recovering alcoholic and so are several of the guests.  We plan on serving beer and wine, but will have lots of fun nonalcoholic drinks.  It’s no fun being stuck with diet coke or water when everyone’s enjoying the latest pretty cocktail.


We’re thinking ginger or root beer, maybe Jones’ soda, and some sparkling green tea.

Non-alcoholic champagne’s out, it looks too similar to regular champagne and is easy to confuse–I don’t want to have that mix-up happen!



The topic ‘Alcohol at the reception??’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors