(Closed) Alcohol during pregnancy

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Is it ok to drink alcohol during pregnancy
    No. Not a drop : (218 votes)
    61 %
    Yes, in moderation : (56 votes)
    16 %
    Yes in moderation in the 2nd & 3rd trimesters : (71 votes)
    20 %
    Yes it's fine : (3 votes)
    1 %
    Other, I'll explain : (7 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 46
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    OP, you brought up the argument that your mom drank and you and your sister turned out fine.

    I remember reading an article about a researcher who is actively trying to educate people about the effects of alcohol on unborn babies. She said people often raise that point – “My mom drank, and I turned out fine.”

    I thought she had a clever response: She tells them: “How do you know that your are fine? How do you know what you might have been if your mother had not drank?”

    Post # 47
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    The Oster book is great on this.  The evidence is that light/moderate drinking does not do harm.  The Panic-Fee Pregnancy covers this too.  

    I’ve had very little to drink during my pregnancy, but I did feel comfortable having a glass of wine on my husband’s birthday, a half glass of wine \ for toasting during my friend’s wedding, and one beer on my birthday.  It was really nice to savor them slowly and feel just a little bit like my old self for a brief time. 

    Post # 48
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    no alcohol for me. if theres a chance of it hurting my baby i dont want to do it. for now my body isnt only mine. its my baby’s house. i want to bake a healthy bun!!!

    Post # 49
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Women take calculated risks every day while pregnant- driving to the mall in a car (and sitting in the front seat, too!), taking a plane to a babymoon. There’s just no social stigma against those activities.

    Post # 50
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery

    I find it risky still. I’m not going to lie…I would probably give a pregnant woman the side eye if I saw her drinking a full glass of anything alcoholic. I have had a sip here and there if hubby orders a drink just to get the taste but I haven’t wanted anymore than that. With all that being said, I do believe in personal choice. My personal opinion is that it’s fine in moderation but I wouldn’t drink any more than a sip. 

    Post # 51
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

    Steph77:  Before getting pregnant I seldom drank alcohol, so I probably not the best person to answer this question. I was a coffee drinker for sure and even that I stopped completely. Alcohol and caffeine cross the placenta, so the way I see it is, do I want my baby to drink and get intoxicated? After all babies are tiny and their metabolism are not the same as an adult. I don’t see any benefits from it, but picturing a baby drink alcohol is a bit scary. Would any mother allow their baby/toddler to drink alcohol? No judging here just my own personal opinon. I am the type that likes to prevent issues/problems, so not knowing how it can affect my baby is a red flag. Each pregnancy is different mother and baby, so we don’t really have all the answers. I don’t want to wait until birth and adulthood to find out.

    Post # 52
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

    daisybee90:  I love your analogy. It’s not our body completely we share it with a tenant (baby), and we cannot just do what we want. I want to give my baby the best possible start in life as much as I can. 

    Post # 53
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    Like previous posters have said, the AAP has determined no safe level of alcohol consumption during pregnancy. There have been cases where very little alcohol has caused issues, and other cases where large amounts seem not to have. But the bigger question is why take the chance? Is one drink SO important that a person would risk their baby’s future on it? I’m not so desperate for a drink that I couldn’t forego alcohol for 9 months (longer, since I was TTC) to guarantee that my child would have no issues attributed to alcohol consumption. As an educator, I’ve seen first-hand the effects of FAS.

    From the AAP:

    The U.S. Surgeon General warns pregnant women and women who may become pregnant to abstain from alcohol consumption to eliminate the chance of giving birth to a baby with any of the harmful effects of fetal alcohol spectrum disorders (FASDs); yet it is estimated that 40,000 babies are born each year with FASDs, which describe a range of effects that can happen to a fetus when a woman drinks alcohol during her pregnancy. FASDs can impact children’s physical, mental, behavioral, or cognitive development… In light of increased misleading media reports and misperceptions about alcohol intake during pregnancy, several health care professional organizations gathered to address the issue and develop clear and consistent messaging for their membership and target audiences. As organizations dedicated to the health of individuals, we agree that drinking any type or amount of alcohol at any time during pregnancy has the potential to cause negative health consequences for the fetus, particularly FASDs, and therefore take a pledge to continue to work together to promote the soundest and healthiest choices for women, children, and families.

    Post # 54
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    Busy bee

    rosegoldgirl:  I don’t think giving a pregnant woman the side eye for her drink is believing in personal choice 🙁

    To me, I think a half glass is okay. I’ve seen friends have a whole glass of wine and felt no judgement of them though (when I say ‘whole glass’ I mean a restaurant poured 100-120ml “standard drink” in australia, not an at home filled up glass). But for my pregnancy, I am not drinking more than a sip of someone else’s drink. I just don’t see the point. When I drink I like to feel it a little, that ‘tipsy’ feeling, but to me if I feel like that then it must be too much for the baby.

    Post # 55
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m almost 11 weeks and I won’t be drinking at all during my pregnancy. I don’t drink normally anyways and to me it just isn’t worth the risk. Yes, our baby might be fine if I drank in moderation, but I would never know if they could have been better or smarter or more successful if I didn’t. Plus, I wouldn’t want to live with the guilt if our child has issues that could have been caused by drinking during pregnancy. It’s just not worth it and it isn’t a huge sacrifice. I also totally avoid caffeine which is considered safe in small amounts… it just all comes down to what each person is comfortable with during their pregnancy.

    Post # 56
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    There may be no conclusive evidence either way about the effects of alcohol consumption on a pregnancy, but…I personally can’t understand why anyone would choose to drink ANY alcohol while pregnant. It’s nine months, people. Surely you can abstain from alcohol for less than a year, for the sake of your child? 

    And I’ll be the one to say it…yes, I judge mothers who choose to drink any amount of alcohol while knowingly pregnant. I think part of being a good mother is avoiding any well known potential risk to your child. Yea, you might get lucky and drink a ton and have a “normal” kid….but what if you don’t? How could you live with yourself knowing you made a selfish choice that likely resulted in lifetime consequences for your baby? Alcohol’s nice and I enjoy wine, but I could go a few months for the sake of another human being. 

    Post # 57
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’ll be 12 weeks tomorrow. We went to a wedding at 10 weeks, and I had a half a glass of wine with dinner, which I drank about half of. I’ve also had a sip of wine here and there. If you added it up I’ve maybe had a half a glass through the first trimester,  which I personally don’t think is a big deal. 

    TBH though, Darling Husband and I are big wine lovers, and were easily drinking a glass a few nights a week before I was pregnant ….for me giving up wine has been by far the hardest thing! And of course I would give up things for my baby…but I’m still a human,  and it’s still my body! Sorry, but some of these responses are getting pretty holier-than-thou. 

    Post # 58
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery

    Yikes! I said I’d give her a side eye not slap the drink out of her hand. I give the side eye to guys who sag their pants and look ridiculous with their underwear hanging out. That doesn’t mean I don’t think they have the right to look like that. It’s just not my preference. 

    Post # 59
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I gave birth in a different country (before moving back to the US) and it is acceptable to drink there. A small glass of champagne a week is sometimes even encouraged. 

    I LOVE wine (my husband’s family own a winery) and unfortunately during my pregnancy, I craved alcohol. Bummer. I did what was comfortable to me. I didnt drink the first trimester. And the second and third, I had one small glass of wine about every month. 

    I did however give up caffeine (until late in the third trimester) and pretty mush everything else that your not supposed to have during pregnancy. Its a personal decision. 

     

    Post # 60
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

    Now does someone know what it means to drink in moderation with baby on board? Do we even know the answer to this question because as I said before the way alcohol affects a baby is different than how it does to a baby. 

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