(Closed) Alcohol Free Weddings

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

I say do it. People can survive an early afternoon party without a drink. Bonus points if you have delicious mocktails.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

If it’s an afternoon wedding I can’t imagine anyone would be disappointed.  Maybe including a champagne toast would be nice- no one can go overboard with one glass of champagne!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

I feel when it comes to dry weddings this is definitely the type of thing that has to be purely 100% up to you and your Fiance and you need to stick to your decisions. I’ve learned on the Bee that apparently a dry wedding is omghorrible!, but ultimately I think every situation is unique.

Like you, I have my own reasons why I want a dry wedding-and not wanting to deal with guests who can’t handle their alcohol is one of them. Other brides can tell me about how they know how to handle their liquir until the cows come home, but in the end, what does that matter? They’re not my guests. I know my guests, they don’t. So who are strangers to tell me what’s right for my family and friends? I feel you need to do the same. Think about YOUR guests, not strangers on the internet who love free booze and make your decision based on that. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Weddings I went to when I was younger rarely had alcohol.  I think you have good reasons for limiting or eliminating it.  I used to swear I’d never have alcohol at my wedding due primarily to things like watching America’s Funniest Home Videos… 🙂

(But we will have alcohol at our reception, and I’ll just have to trust everyone to be respectful!)

If you’re torn, could you just have a limited amount available?  A glass of champagne for everyone, and maybe some wine available but that’s it…?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think that’s very acceptable and doable. We had an afternoon dry wedding and it didn’t seem like a big deal at all.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I know others disagree, but to me a wedding reception does not require booze, especially if it’s an early afternoon event.  Just be aware for those determined to drink they may pre-party, bring flasks, or keep a supply in the car and make trips out there to keep the buzz going.  Hopefully the time of day and the lack of obvious supply will keep things in check (though it’s sad that you need to plan your reception around people who cannot behave themselves.)  

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

early afternoon no prob. But id still want some champagne or prosecco! 

Evening party… see bee’s recent thread about why everyone left early….

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

If you are going to have an alcohol free wedding then I wouldn’t serve champagne.  It can be confusing to guests because then they may be wondering where the rest of the booze is.  So if you go dry, go completely dry.

That being said, I think a dry wedding in the early afternoon is just fine.  The booze is not what makes me stay at a wedding (it does however, get me out on the dance floor).  It is the company and conversation that keeps me at a wedding or any party for that matter.  If I am not having a good time booze isn’t going to help.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I attended my first dry wedding a few weeks ago. Not a fan.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Fi and I don’t drink, but we are having alcohol at our wedding mainly because it is late at night, there will be a lot of dancing and people will be staying on site.

With an afternoon wedding I think a dry wedding would work great.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

My fiance and I don’t drink. My side of the family doesn’t really drink either. His side of the family are heavy drinkers and have been known to cause drunken drama at get togethers. We’re not having any alcohol at the reception. A few of his family members have complained but they really don’t have to come. It’s our wedding, our decision.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

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kaitlynrose30:  I am just saying that serving one glass of champagne can be confusing to guests.  They will go from thinking your wedding is dry to now wondering if more alcohol is going to be served.  It is not rude to wonder “huh well they are serving champagne so does that mean more alcohol is going to be available?”  It is kind of an obvious thing to wonder.

And please stop using the excuse that it is because other people can’t handle their alcohol as to why you are not having it.  You should not be trying to control adults.  If they get drunk and act crazy that is on them.  Your real reason is that you just don’t want to host it becuase you don’t want to have to pay for it which is perfectaly reasonable and understandable.

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