Post # 46
Honestly, a dry wedding is not my idea of a good time. I don’t get drunk ever anymore, I am not a big drinker. But a few glasses of wine at a social function is expected. Even if you don’t provide it. I would not be thrilled with a cash bar, but it is better than no bar.
Post # 47
I always want a drink at a wedding. Even just one. You can give the bartender or day of coordinator a heads up on the disruptive persons and they can cut them off.
Or remove the bar and have a champagne toast with wine service at dinner. That way you don’t have the disruptive people getting absoulutely hammered (they may bring their own FYI). Also, you can serve only during dinner and those that want a drink to loosen up can have a glass of wine at dinner and a glass of champagne for the toast. That way everyone is happy.
Post # 48
Being overwhelmed is par for the course planning a wedding! I’m glad you decided that! It will be more fun. And you can always have the venue deal with those who over indulge. Or hire an extra day of coordinator just for that purpose. I know our venue requires us to pay them for security because we are serving alcohol since you just never know and they don’t want to be held liable.
Post # 49
When people talk about the worst wedding ever, it’s always a dry wedding. I agree with that, even though I don’t drink. IMO, sober people are boring. Many people need some alcohol in their system to socialize and loosen up.
Post # 50
Another vote for alcohol.
We had red and white wine, and a signature drink that included champagne and then sparkling water and juices. I think I had maybe one alcoholic drink in total over the course of the wedding but it was still well worth it. People are a bit more relaxed and open. BevMo had a great deal going so we were able to get enough for 70 guests for under $300 and we had plenty left over that we’re planning to use for the holidays!
Post # 51
Alcohol if you want people to dance and have a good time! I was worried that my family members who usually aren’t fun wouldn’t dance but they had a few drinks and danced all night! It was the best night ever! It is not a waste of money I promise and you seem to have already had it budgeted. I have been to a few dry weddings and they were not memorable.
Post # 52
I just went to a wedding on the weekend, it wasn’t a dry wedding but it was a cash bar. We left at 9pm…
Post # 53
Yup. If I want to buy drinks I can do that at the bar of my choosing.
Post # 54
When it comes to weddings, as a first, the things that are important to me are, in order: 1) ceremony; 2) enjoying the company of people at the reception; 3) shelter and somewhere to sit; 4) food; 5) alcohol; 6) everyone else. I understand weddings that don’t serve alcohol because the bride and groom don’t drink, or for religious reasons, or to support family members who struggle with alcohol, or if the couple plain can’t afford alcohol. In any other case, I’d wonder why the couple hadn’t offered such a basic and expected accommodation.
Also, to the idea that the money could be spent on other things: as a guest I would ask, “What’s more important exactly? Flowers? Nicely engraved invitations? Fancier chairs? No one but the couple and maybe their families really cares about these things, but everyone will remember whether or not they felt comfortable and cared for and had fun.”