(Closed) Alcohol or No?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Are your friends drinkers? Your family? Your FI? His family? Could you do something low key? Champagne for a toast, bar with just wine and beer (that you stock yourself).

Post # 4
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It is a decision you have to make for yourself, but note that there are many brides that choose to do a dry reception.  If you cannot afford it, then I would not have alcohol available.  Maybe think about your families and guests and whether they would like alcohol to be served – talk to your Fiance and families about what they think.  Another thing that could influence the decision is the day and time of your reception (morning or lunch vs. a late evening).  It really is your decision though, and while so many people seem to expect alcohol to be served at a wedding, it certainly is not necessary if you have enough other selection to offer.  Good luck!

Post # 5
2588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

You could always do a dry reception–there’s nothing wrong with having one for any reason.

Post # 6
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

My dad felt this same way, he doesn’t drink at all and was paying for the cost related to the venue. However since our guests do drink and would enjoy a glass of wine or beer at dinner we did have an open bar.

Post # 7
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

My hubby and I don’t drink, but I know our friends and family do and would want to. So we offered alcohol. It’s really up to you though, if that’s not a priority, save some money!

Post # 8
1569 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Serving alcohol or not is completely your choice. One thing you might consider is that, while you personally wouldn’t enjoy alcohol, you might enjoy the difference that alcohol could make in the mood of your guests. Most people are much more interested in dancing when they’ve had a couple of drinks, for example, and some people feel more in the mood to hang around later on into a reception if alcohol is available. That’s just one reason why a person might choose to serve alcohol even if they won’t be drinking it. Again, though, it’s completely up to you. The best way to approach the decision is probably to assess what kind of a reception you want and can afford to have (lots of dancing vs. no dancing, afternoon vs. evening, etc), and then decide whether alcohol should be involved.

As an example, we had root beer available at my wedding even though I can’t stand it, because I knew some people would want it. But, alcohol is a huge expense, so that’s a very different decision.

Post # 9
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Keeping in mind that folks on this board are very opinionated where alcohol is concerned (“it must be served or else your guests will be bored” or the opposite “alcohol doesn’t belong at weddings, period” with not much middle ground), this is something that only you can answer. Everyone else here has their own ideas that only apply to them, no one else. You have to decide what works best for you and your guests. What someone else does for their guests will not for you because your social circle is entirely different and you know your guests and what they like and what they don’t, and no one else does.

Regarding your family and friends, do the majority drink in the first place? Don’t have alcohol if you know that only a small fraction will consume any. If so, serve what you can afford that they will enjoy. Don’t charge guests to drink for any reason as that makes you a bad hostess. If your guests don’t drink, obviously don’t serve it. It’s really not that complicated to figure out once you get down to the basics.

If you do serve alcohol, be aware that many people do not drink beer or wine and prefer other drinks instead, and if those two are all that is available, be sure to have a ton of nonalcoholic drinks (sodas, fruit punch, lemonade, iced tea, coffee, etc) in addition. But some people will tell you that beer and wine will please everyone everywhere, which most often is not the case.

Post # 10
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think if you had a more compelling reason to exclude alcohol such as religious preference or a huge family of alcoholics, I’d say skip it.

But…there are lots of things that all of us don’t like. There are many foods that I don’t like, but I’m not going to complain if for example there are olives on an antipasto plate because I don’t eat them. The food and entertainment is there for the guests, so if it’s something you can afford and think your guests would enjoy…then I would highly recommend it.

Depending on the time of day of your wedding, it might be okay (for example, if it’s around lunch time). But for an evening reception? I’d strongly suggest having drinks.

Post # 11
379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I like alcohol otherwise I will probably be bored but I would never think badly if there was no alcohol.  When my friends that did not drink got married I was very surprised that they had an open bar.  Alchol is fun but you can keep your guest entertained in other ways.

Post # 12
566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I do not drink much, but am definately having alcohol at my wedding.  It’s what my family likes and expects.  I want to make my guests happy.

Post # 13
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We had a dry reception and no one seemed to mind. However, it was a Friday evening and some of the younger crowd did leave the reception early so they could go bar-hopping.

Post # 15
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I personally think it’s a very bad idea not to have alcohol.  It may be a boring and low atmospheric reception.  It’s completely ok for guests not to drink, but why restrict everyone just because it’s not for you..?  Surely the people you invite mean a great deal to you?   

I think you are sounding a little selfish.  How would you feel if you went to a friend’s wedding and they ONLY had alcohol because THEY like alcohol… get it?! 

Post # 16
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

@Pia2010: I have been to many wedding receptions (including my own thankyouverymuch) that were dry and they were not boring or “low atmospheric” – what are you talkign about any way, the mood or a weather report?!  Just because something isn’t your taste doesn’t mean you need to judge it or call the OP selfish.

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