(Closed) Alcohol Policy on Wedding Website?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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11 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Snapdragon2804:  If ANYTHING, I would note that outside food and beverage are not permitted by your venue for any reason.  Hopefully people will get the hint.  Make sure you tell the people that you would suspect of doing this about it.  But in a non-confrontational manner…

EX:  Oh Aunt Claira!  My venue will kick us all out if they catch someone with hard alcohol and we will get slapped with a huge fine.  You don’t think anyone would do that would you? 

Then party girl Aunta Claira can pass on the info to others. 

Post # 4
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9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here…

Ok strictly speaking… a Host can decide the format of the event… be it a dry or wet one… and what they choose to serve.

They do not have to “consult” with their Guests.  Period.

And certainly not before the event…

Personally, I think putting an annoucement up somewhere about the Alcohol Policy for your Venue (altho looking pro-active) also just serves to CREATE Drama.

And as you stated, it looks BOSSY… and is what we’d call DICTATING the situation

One shall not DICTATE things to their Guests.  Ever.

It is NOT “Guest Friendly”… and ya, not good Etiquette

My best advice… unless you are truly aware of this being a situation that is going to get out of hand (people bringing in their own alcohol… very very tacky… and maybe what sparked your friend to do what she has done… someone else’s Poor Etiquette has made her stoop to that same level as well)

You should do absolutely nothing.

Folks will drink & eat whatever you have made arrangements to serve them (or not)

If the menu is not to their preference, then they’ll leave early and stop for a bite or a drink on the way home.

C’est la vie.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 7
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1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think its right for guests to be upset with whatever you decide to serve them.  Beer and wine only is a perfectly acceptable route.  I went to a wedding where the only option was water and one glass of wine.  I don’t drink… so it was kinda blah.  When they brought the coffee aroudn though I was happy to get a drink with some flavor! 

Post # 8
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3 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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Post # 11
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825 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Snapdragon2804:  if you don’t tell guests ahead of time that hard liquor won’t be served, why would they know or think to bring their own alcohol? Just don’t advertise the fact that liquor won’t be served in the first place. 

Post # 12
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750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Snapdragon2804:  I think it is fine to put it on the website. Just cater to your audience. If they are more formal, make it a more formal sounding announcement, if they are more light hearted, make it a bit more jokey.

If people know there is a fine they are less likely to bring it in… also, you could suggest places for them to go near the venue that serve cocktails after the reception. We don’t drink, but a handful of our guests probably wouldn’t mind havign a drink after our afternoon/early evening reception, so we are putting some local water holes on our website when the time comes.

Post # 13
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9556 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I started to type that I couldn’t imagine a guest bringing their own alcohol, but then I remembered that as a college student I went to a dry wedding and someone brought a bottle that they kept in the car and at one point a couple of us went out to the car and did a couple shots. What can I  say? We were young. And we didn’t bring it in. But still. 

All that being said, the people who are likely to be problematic are not likely to read or listen to a polite request on your wedding website. So if you have specific people in mind, I’d try to work it into conversation that they will close down the reception if hard alcohol is brought in. You could even say something like “The venue is kinda nuts – they even said they’d close the reception if anyone brough in hard alcohol!”

Post # 14
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9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @Snapdragon2804:  well if you think it could be an issue (only you know your Guests) I’d put something on your Wedding Website… that is more “subtle” on the Venue Page (assuming that you’ll have a page where you’ll show pics of the Venue, whatever)

Then I’d go with the wording that ELM12345: supplied in Reply # 2, above

If ANYTHING,

PLEASE NOTE:  Outside food and beverage are not permitted by your venue for any reason.

Then use “word of mouth” to get the message out as well… (don’t have to mention ALCOHOL specifically)

Just that anyone bringing in their own food or beverage items will be FINED (make it sound like THEY WILL BE FINED) and the Reception will be shut down on the spot.

I think that should take care of most potential offenders… and hopefully put others on your Team if they see / become aware of someone breaking the rule.

Honestly, I think most people are more “law abiding” than being rebellious.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 15
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1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Snapdragon2804:  Oh then I think word of mouth is best.  This never crossed my mind as we had an open bar but apparently guests at our wedding had a bottle in their car and were going to the parking lot ot hit that! lol

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