(Closed) All a bridesmaids duties are, are to turn up on the day….

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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j_jaye:  That’s true, but I expected one and got it. That is particular the case in my circle, and we were asked to speak on our perspective. I had no issues with my Wedding Party. In pervious threads, I have bragged about my Wedding Party, so no issues here. I guess people who are generous with their time and money attract like minded friends. That is the only conclusion I have come to because I have had none of the Wedding Party problems I have read about. 

What is a shock horror is that you were unable to respond without being sarcastic. That almost never happens. 

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 10 months ago by Bellagiobride.
Post # 32
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Bumble Beekeeper

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Bellagiobride:  much like you stock standard bitchy blanket statements like what bride doesn’t expect a shower or guess people who are generous with time and money attract liKe minded friends. I guess if you think friendship is about money then it suits.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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j_jaye:  Lol. You got me. Unfortunately, I don’t e-beef, and since I can imagine you are a last word freak, I will let it be over after you respond to this.  Get your fill of back and forth on another post. Dueces. 

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee

Expecting a bridal shower or a bachelorette party in itself is wrong. It’s like saying, “I expect someone to throw me a birthday party every year and I most definitely expect gifts”. No sweetheart, if someone wants to throw you a shower or bachelorette party then that is very nice of them but it is certainly NOT their “duty”. You don’t get to demand parties just because you decided to get married. You are not owed these things in any way. Showers and such are a privilege, not a right!! You get your wedding day and that’s it. Everything else is just a bonus but certainly not anyone’s “duty” or “job”.

Post # 35
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Busy bee

I disagree, but if thats all you want your bridesmaids to do, then thats cool for you.

 

ETA- I didn’t read the OP very well, I just wanted to make it clear that its the title I disagree with, not you.

Post # 36
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Blushing bee

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springbee2015:  My girls have nothing to do but show up on the day as well.  I want nothing more from them.  After being squeezed finanically and emotionally to be honest during the process of weddings of others, I know what I want my time to be like.  As eazy peezey as possible for all!!!

 

I say if you want them to do ceratin things, buy ceratin things etc…you needed to be 100 percent forthright with your expecatations and desires when you asked them to be your BMs.  Everyone has a different idea of what being part of the wedding party means.

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I agree and disagree with everyone on here – Yes, they should only show up for the day, however if you picked them because they were close friends, they should be a friend to you and support you through the wedding process. I had a bridesmaid that I was friends with who totally went AWOL throughout the whole process to the point it was a month to go and she didn’t have her dress yet, she would ignore text, facebook messages from anyone in the bridal party, let alone me regarding anything. I think you shouldn’t expect the moon and the stars from your bridal party because they are spending alot of money to come and to be there for you but at the same time, you should expect a little human decency and respect from them when it comes to certain things.

Anyway – this girl and I don’t talk anymore and she upset alot of people at the wedding with her rude comments and attitude, so I know it wasn’t me 🙂

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