(Closed) All I really wanted for my birthday was to hear from my little sister…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Aw. I am so sorry. 🙁

Maybe you have already but if she means this much to you have you tried going to look for her? Talk to her in person? Make sure she is okay? I mean if you suspect he is abusing her don’t you want to know for sure and rescue her?

I’m sorry again but HAPPY BIRTHDAY to another Cinco de Mayo baby! 😀

Post # 4
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Newbee

Oh my god, that’s terrible.  *hugs, lots* 

 I am going through something similar- not as extreme, but similar- with my little brother, who was my best friend up until around when he turned 15.  At that point he decided he didn’t want or need his family any more and basically shut us out of his life entirely.  He didn’t leave home- but he wouldn’t talk to us or eat with us or interact in any way unless he needed something from us.  You could put it down to "teenage boy"- except that he’s now 23 and his attitude hasn’t changed in the slightest. 

Every attempt at reconciliation I have made has been rebuffed.  He has told me point blank that he thinks this is how families should work- they should be there when needed, but otherwise stay out of each other’s business.  It’s broken my heart.  I’m at the point where it has taken so many years of tears and healing to get to the point where I can think about the situation without bursting into tears. 

Has anyone in your family tried to go to Alabama and knock on her door?  I realize it’s something of a trip, but so many months with no news might make it worthwhile.  Situations and people are a lot harder to ignore when they’re standing on your doorstep.  Especially if you think there is a chance she is being abused!  If that is the case I’m not sure what you will be able to do about it if she’s not willing to admit the abuse, but at least you will have the truth, and that’s one extra tool.

I’ll be praying and hoping hard for your family.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

{{{}}}I’m sorry! That stinks! What part of AL is she in? Want me to go find her and kidnap her for you? 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I am so sorry that you are going through this… <<HUGS>>. By the way, Happy Belated Birthday!

It is always tough when there is a riff in the family but it seems like your family is trying to make amends of it all. Maybe one day your sister will come around and I hope so since she is your best friend.

Wishing you all the best!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

First off, I’m so sorry for your situation.  I’m very close with my sister as well, and I would be devastated if I was in your shoes.

 If it were me, I would ask a close friend to step in and fill the bridesmaid spot.  If your sister shows up, it should be a happy occasion (and unfortunately probably a suprise). I would want someone who would be understanding and provide a good lift if sister didn’t show.

How close are you to your wedding?

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ok, wow. Huge "duh" moment for me there. So August 15th means you still have a bit of time. I would begin feeling out potential bridesmaids, but not jump to anything yet.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m so sorry! From an outside perspective, if you haven’t been able to get her to return a phone call, I’m guessing she hasn’t ordered a dress yet either?  If you are set on the even numbers, maybe start feeling out some other good friends and see how that works out.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Happy belated birthday!

Is it possible she is in an unhealthy abusive relationship and he wont’ LET her call?

It sounds weird. is there somethign more going on underneath the surface? a big fat red flag is going off in my face….

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am so very sorry..big hugs!  I’m not currently speaking to my sister (she only lives like 15 minutes away) and haven’t since October, so I know how you feel…it’s hard and stressful that’s for sure!  Shoot, and my sister has a new little baby I’ve never even held. 

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