Post # 1
This has been on my mind for soooo long and I have no one to talk to. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year ( June 30th). Recently, we went ring shopping and both designed my custom engagement ring, which I have no idea if he has ordered it or not! But thats a whole different post! LOL
The issue I have been having, especially lately now that I think about us getting married and spending the rest of our lives together is…….. I HAVE NEVER SEEN HIM FULLY BUTT NAKED!!! When we are intimate he always has his shirt on or will take it all off and want to just do it doggie style (sorry for that lingo) , I have taken a shower with him twice and he hids from me… I don’t know why and I have expressed it to him many times,,, he is gorgeous, I love everything about him and I still feel like he is holding back from me.. I don’t understand it. I mean how can I marry someone who can’t be themself around me?
It is making me start to think what else does he hold back from me?
What should I do?
Post # 3
I’m confused…does he not want to show you his little soldier or is he not showing you like his chest/stomach? Have you ever actually seen it?
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
@Brittanyvictoria7: It sounds like maybe he’s not hiding anything from you per say, but perhaps tha the’s just very shy or self-concious about his body. I would just continue to compliment him and hope he comes around.
Post # 5
@Brittanyvictoria7: Tell him you want him to stop hiding from you! If you can’t see him nakie, I don’t know who can!.
I’m pretty shy about my body also, but my Fiance would be pissed if he didn’t get to see all the goods!
Once he does it, getting nakie will become easier on him. You just need to straight up tell him!
Post # 6
It wouldn’t necessarily be a red flag to me. Maybe he’s just modest, or he gets cold easily.
Post # 7
We live together and spend alot of time together.. He is def. not shy about showing his penis. I do think maybe hes consicious about his body, but his body is amazing! and I tell him that all the time.
Post # 8
@Brittanyvictoria7: When my fiance first started dating he told me he was ashamed of his shoulders (I LOVE HIS SHOULDERS THEY ARE SO LARGE) because he had scoliosis and that he was ashaamed of the very very very small amount of acne he had on hs chest.
So I pretty much made him take his clothes off in front of me and then told him how beautiful he was
I made him feel exposed so that he would trust me and then I built up his self esteem
Now he’s doing P90X for the wedding. He’s so proud of his shoulders now.
Not sure if this helps but I hope so
Post # 9
I am really starting to feel like if he can’t be himself with me, then why are we together. It’s been almost a year of being together! i dont understand
Post # 10
He is probably self conscious, I didn’t see Fiance for a year after we started dating because he is very self conscious about little pink bumps on his back just below his shoulders, he would ALWAYS wear a shirt when we were fooling around (didn’t have sex until we had been dating a year) and wouldn’t let me shower with him. It was definitely self confidence issues, and once he was more comfortable with me and our relationship, and that I loved his body no matter what he was happy to do things naked.
Post # 11
@Brittanyvictoria7: i was totally going through the same thing with my FI he was so uncomfy getting fully undressed around me and in the shower together he would rush and be in awkward angles lol. he informed me he was very self conscious of his body after like the 3rd convo about it.
now we are like adam and eve before they ate the forbidden fruit!
Post # 12
Darling Husband was like this for a year too! When we would take showers together he would cover the goods. I used to get so mad. I just would boost his confidence and tell him how handsome he is and how I love him. Now 3 years of being together he will just pull his pants down infront of me randomly and shake his junk at me. lol I joke with him and say I almost liked it better when I didn’t have balls all up in my face. (: He will get comfortable with you. Just give it a while. I know it’s hard.
Post # 13
Heres another example.. Right now he is in our bed, sick as a dog since last night! I tried being by his side, taking care of him, all he covered his face with the blanket ad told me to leave the room because he can’t throw up when I’m in the room..
Then continues to hide under the blanket. Like he didn’t want me to see him sick.
Post # 14
It honestly feels like he’s insecure about his body… I don’t think it has anything to do with you or that you’re doing anything wrong. Maybe you could make him feel hot! Compliment him to death and maybe you could tug at his shirt and take it off the next time you two are intimate?
Post # 15
I get where he’s coming from. Before I had our son I was still very uncomfortable being fully naked in from of my Fiance, but after I had him, forget it!
I do make love with no clothes, but never with the lights on, and I would never willingly let him see my stomach area naked. I just hate that part of my body, and while I’m sure he knows what it looks like, I’d rather not willingly show him. When we have a jacuzzi together I make him look away until I’m in the water. I know it’s silly, and he knows it’s silly, but he still does it because it makes me more comfortable. Our love life doesn’t suffer for it.
Post # 16
@Brittanyvictoria7: just because he is self conscious doesn’t mean he isn’t being himself around you. He IS being himself, that’s just how he is! He probably doesn’t even do it consciously. I’m kind of the same way. My SO has seen me naked, but I don’t like to be completely naked often because I’m self conscious. It doesn’t mean I don’t love him or don’t trust him, that’s just how I am. Some people are more modest than others, even in private.
Oh, and I can’t throw up in front of anyone either. I will go to a bathroom in a completely different part of the house if I need to throw up. But again, it has nothing to do with our relationship, that’s just how I am.