posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m confused…does he not want to show you his little soldier or is he not showing you like his chest/stomach?  Have you ever actually seen it?

Post # 4
1420 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

@Brittanyvictoria7:  It sounds like maybe he’s not hiding anything from you per say, but perhaps tha the’s just very shy or self-concious about his body.  I would just continue to compliment him and hope he comes around. 

Post # 5
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Brittanyvictoria7:  Tell him you want him to stop hiding from you! If you can’t see him nakie, I don’t know who can!.


I’m pretty shy about my body also, but my Fiance would be pissed if he didn’t get to see all the goods!


Once he does it, getting nakie will become easier on him. You just need to straight up tell him!

Post # 6
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

It wouldn’t necessarily be a red flag to me. Maybe he’s just modest, or he gets cold easily.

Post # 8
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Brittanyvictoria7:  When my fiance first started dating he told me he was ashamed of his shoulders (I LOVE HIS SHOULDERS THEY ARE SO LARGE) because he had scoliosis and that he was ashaamed of the very very very small amount of acne he had on hs chest.

So I pretty much made him take his clothes off in front of me and then told him how beautiful he was

I made him feel exposed so that he would trust me and then I built up his self esteem

Now he’s doing P90X for the wedding. He’s so proud of his shoulders now.

Not sure if this helps but I hope so

Post # 10
9675 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

He is probably self conscious, I didn’t see Fiance for a year after we started dating because he is very self conscious about little pink bumps on his back just below his shoulders, he would ALWAYS wear a shirt when we were fooling around (didn’t have sex until we had been dating a year) and wouldn’t let me shower with him. It was definitely self confidence issues, and once he was more comfortable with me and our relationship, and that I loved his body no matter what he was happy to do things naked.

Post # 11
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Brittanyvictoria7:  i was totally going through the same thing with my FI  he was so uncomfy getting fully undressed around me and in the shower together he would rush and be in awkward angles lol. he informed me he was very self conscious of his body after like the 3rd convo about it.

now we are like adam and eve before they ate the forbidden fruit!

Post # 12
2400 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Darling Husband was like this for a year too! When we would take showers together he would cover the goods. I used to get so mad. I just would boost his confidence and tell him how handsome he is and how I love him. Now 3 years of being together he will just pull his pants down infront of me randomly and shake his junk at me.  lol I joke with him and say I almost liked it better when I didn’t have balls all up in my face. (: He will get comfortable with you. Just give it a while. I know it’s hard.

Post # 14
1782 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It honestly feels like he’s insecure about his body… I don’t think it has anything to do with you or that you’re doing anything wrong. Maybe you could make him feel hot! Compliment him to death and maybe you could tug at his shirt and take it off the next time you two are intimate?

Post # 15
1846 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I get where he’s coming from. Before I had our son I was still very uncomfortable being fully naked in from of my Fiance, but after I had him, forget it! 

I do make love with no clothes, but never with the lights on, and I would never willingly let him see my stomach area naked. I just hate that part of my body, and while I’m sure he knows what it looks like, I’d rather not willingly show him. When we have a jacuzzi together I make him look away until I’m in the water. I know it’s silly, and he knows it’s silly, but he still does it because it makes me more comfortable. Our love life doesn’t suffer for it.

Post # 16
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Brittanyvictoria7:  just because he is self conscious doesn’t mean he isn’t being himself around you. He IS being himself, that’s just how he is! He probably doesn’t even do it consciously. I’m kind of the same way. My SO has seen me naked, but I don’t like to be completely naked often because I’m self conscious. It doesn’t mean I don’t love him or don’t trust him, that’s just how I am. Some people are more modest than others, even in private.


Oh, and I can’t throw up in front of anyone either. I will go to a bathroom in a completely different part of the house if I need to throw up. But again, it has nothing to do with our relationship, that’s just how I am.

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