Post # 17
I read it…and I applaud you for hanging tough in that situation…jeesh! lol. Oh, and don’t do it if you’re heart isnt in it, okay? I quite like the idea of the professor performing the ceremony…even if your family doesn’t lol.
and jesus tingles…? Um, how about no? lol not for everybody, gotta love her for trying lol.
Jeesh…do they think you will sleep with each other any differently in your own apartment than at his house or yours? Or in a hotel room for goodness sakes?! How that makes sense is beyond me…do you think you would move out 6 months before??
Yeah, that’s the thing…I’m only about 6 months out (closer to 7), so I don’t know…I can hang on as best as I can until then, but if it gets to the point where we are fighting worse than today, then I need to give our relationship a breather and move out
Post # 18
Yea… that was my feelings on the tingles, but she was so earnist about it, she was truely trying to help, I was like,,, I love you but no.
I haven’t really decided yet if i will move out or not… I mean I might move in with a g/f for grad school, ( hence the long engagement) but thats money i would have to pay, that i could be paying bills or saving for the wedding so thats my olny thing.
Post # 19
hhahahahahaha I am not YET annoyed with my mom. Truly, not! we actually surprisingly have been working great together! I have to say my parents have been amazing. 🙂 xoxox hope it stays this way as we have 9 more months of planning!
Post # 20
On my 18th birthday, my mom and her husband-at-the-time told me “Happy Birthday, where’s your rent money?” (We had agreed upon this the year before, but still! No class!) So I paid $50 every Friday to live in the same room I had lived in almost my whole life. Yay (sarcasm)
Anyways, one day I was leaving for work in the morning, and said “bye, see you guys tomorrow night” (I was going to work, then sleepover at my bff’s, then work again the next day, then home) and my mother just flipped out. Where did I think I was going? Didn’t I know I lived under her roof? Her house, her rules? Etc etc etc.
I told her I could be her daughter or her tenant. She didn’t like that answer, so I told her I’d rather pay more money and live somewhere that I actually wanted to be. She didn’t believe me, but 6 weeks later I was packing my car and moving 2 hours away. I had found a job, an apartment, and roommates in that time, and was outta there!
Point of the story is: mothers are impossible to deal with, and sometimes you just have to create space to improve upon things. Good luck!!
Post # 21
@Annebanan: I understand your frustration. My mom has come to terms with the fact that my boyfriend and I have sex. But we’re about to have a new problem. He’s still living at home while saving money for our house, and I’m about to move home from a different state. I’ll be living at home until the wedding (46 weeks!) So having any sort of sex life is not looking likely right now.
Post # 22
I have the opposite! My mum always tries to speak about things I would really really prefer NOT to know about! I seem to be always shouting “bloody heck woman – too much information!!!” her reply is always “What – we’re grown women!”. I would prefer not being questioned if my FH is satisfying me and how important it is that we keep things spicy in the bedroom. I tell her IF I want to discuss those things I would do it with friends and not my mother and I advise my mother does the same – to no avail. To be honest I am a total prude when it comes to discussing things. Heck I even hid the fact I started my period for about 6 months when I was 12.
Post # 23
I am the same way as you! I’m definitely not the type to kiss and tell, but my mother is very open about things in her personal life. Way too open, in my opinion! I also didn’t tell anyone when I started my period, either.
Post # 24
Shortly after I turned 18, I was having lunch with my mom and she just slipped ‘now, you and SO having sex, I feel like you’re 18 now so you can make your own decisions, just be careful about it’ right into a conversation and she didn’t even pause after she said it, just kept right on talking about other things! I didn’t even know what to say, I was so flabbergasted, I just shoved food in my mouth. Haha.
So she’s “fine” with the sex thing (FI’s parents choose the ‘he’s still a virgin’ route) but I know she’s probably going to have a meltdown when she finds out that we’re not having a religious ceremony at all. FI’s mom will probably also have a meltdown. They both know we’re not getting married in a church, but they’re still under the impression that the ceremony will be done by a religious person and have an overall ‘christian’ feel to it. Not the case at all, but I am not looking forward to letting them in on that little bit of info.
Post # 25
I think it will really help once you move out. I moved out of my mom’s house when I went to college (a month before I turned 18) and my relationship with her got a lot better (and it was good before). I even moved back in with her about two years later (transferred to a school close to her house) and it was different. She treated me a lot more like an adult then.
Post # 26
my mom felt it was her wedding to “redo” better and classier. I love her, but it was hard to deal with….after looking back, I am glad she “butted” in, cuz she has great taste and Mom’s know best!