Post # 1
Is anyone else getting married at an all-inclusive? If so, how did you decide on guest lists? It seems like the analysis is different compared to a non-all-inclusive because the cost per guest is significantly less. It still costs but most of the cost of the wedding is the cost of the entertainment, photography, decorations, etc. so it wouldn’t really change that much for each incremenetal guest because the food is included. We are also doing it on the beach so space isn’t really an issue. I’m confused about who to invite.
I personally think the more the merrier when it comes to our friends (and my parents are doing something back at home for their friends afterwards) because I don’t think that many will come but I’m just not sure about the etiquette of invitations. I wouldn’t want to send an invite to someone who I’m not super close with but would invite to a normal big wedding, and have them feel obligated to send a gift because I know they wouldn’t come to Mexico for us. But I also wouldn’t want to insult someone who is expecting to be invited.
We don’t have the budget excuse which is nice in a way, but I’m starting to get stressed and I’m not sure what’s the right way to go.
Post # 3
I did an all inclusive resort and I was kind of confused about this at first too!
First thing to make sure you know – the food for your wedding is NOT included just because your at an all inclusive. At my wedding, we paid a per guest charge of $95/head. Of course this depends on how many guests you have (might have few enough to be included in a package) and where you had the wedding. But just wanted to clarify a common misconception.
What we decided to do was make a guest list as if we were having the wedding at home. In general we invted the same people that we would have if we got married at home, but handled some exceptions on a case by case basis. For example, my parents asked us not to send invites to their friends until they talked to the friends about if they were interested in coming (didn’t want them to think we were gift grabby). We looked at our friends on a case by case basis, but ended up deciding to invite all of them because you never know who will want to come.
One of the great things about an all inclusive is that you don’t have to make those hard cuts to the guest list! You can invite everyone who you would like to have there, and it’s up to them to decide if they come. I also think that people generally relax the gift ettiquite for a Destination Wedding a little bit. At least our friends didn’t feel obligated to get us gifts which was totally fine with us.
Post # 4
We are planning our wedding at an all inclusive. It will work out slightly cheaper than if we had a wedding at home but I’ve found that they charge for everything! (Ie. every chair after the package included 20 is $3) So be careful thinking its too cheap, hahha.
In terms of guest list we invited everyone we would have if our wedding was home (A little over 200). We have 31 confirmed and another 15 maybes right now. Our wedding is in November so I’m hoping everyone will be confirmed by August. It’s been really fun to watch the guest list grow, we had a few confirm I wouldn’t of guessed at all. I’m super excited 🙂
Post # 5
We also are having our wedding at an all inclusive! Just curious, what resorts are you ladies choosing? We chose Sandals Royal Caribbean (in Montego Bay, Jamaica)!
I was really confused about the guest list, too. At least at Sandals, the more guests you invite, the more free stuff they give you for your reception…so I am hoping, the more the merrier! Our guest list is a little bigger than if we had held a traditional wedding….mainly because of the cost difference. I am trying to invite as many people who could possibly be interested in coming, without coming off as “gift grabby.” I checked with the parents and grandparents and included people they thought would be interested, even if they’re not well known to us. Why not, right? A destination wedding is a great opportunity to get to know your family and friends!!
Right now our guest list is close to 70. The wedding’s not for a year and a half, though, so we don’t have any “official” responses yet, but my parents, sister, and aunt have already booked 🙂 My FI’s parents are planning on coming, but haven’t made the reservation yet. I’m hoping for about 20 people/10 rooms….that extends the reception to hot and cold hors’doeuvres and sparkling wine, and provides for a free rehersal dinner the night before.
Post # 6
@cbgg: thanks for the advice, that makes sense. Yes apparently we are getting charged for each extra chair after 30 at the reception, and also for each additional table. So you are right that it isn’t nothing. I guess I’m thinking of compared to NY or DC, which is where we are from. and yes, I think a lot gets spread by word of mouth, even though I’m going to try to write on the website something like “your presence is our present.”
@Dialysate: what was the size of your original guest list? The resort, moon palace in mexico, has it set for 30 people and they seem apalled that we are planning for at least double of that. At this point we have no clue how many people will come but we think it’s at least 60 of the 200 guests we are inviting!
@SuprMe: it’s nice to hear some positivity! It’s been really stressful explaining a dw to our large families who expected something more traditional and also stressful trying to negotiate airfare, room rates, making a website, and getting the saved the dates down but all of those things are almost done and then I’m looking forward to having people start RSVPing and getting excited!!
Post # 7
My fiance and I are getting married next May in Puerto Vallarta and we are inviting everyone we would have invited if we were getting married at home. I don’t want to invite people just because I can. Especially since every person after the first 20 is $85 each.
Post # 8
@flowerring: Well, we’re still working on the guest list. It’s at 70 now, but we’re still waiting on some names back from our parents. It’s awesome that you have 60 people wanting to come to your destination wedding! I’ve never heard of a destination wedding that large, maybe that’s why your resort is so surprised?!
Post # 9
@flowerring: I had my wedding at an all-inclusive resort two months ago. We had 67 guests join us. It as hard to narrow down the guest list at first but we then realized that the people we wanted to be there were and the people we didnt couldnt come (thankfully) We paid $46 per guest for a private dinner and reception in a restaurant. We also paid for the photographer,sparkling champagne, and a musical trio that played at our ceremony. I brought my own decorations and flowers so didnt have to pay for that.
Post # 10
@sweetchiquita12: We’re getting married in Ocho Rios. The flowers were so expensive that I decided to do my own centerpiece creation. I am curious to know what you decided to bring down with you to decorate your tables. So far, I have purchased and am bringing: sand ceremony supplies, own table linens, own metallic lavender sashes, aisle runner, guest book, rose petals, fans, votives, DIY programs, guest bags, etc. I am trying to figure out simple / elegant centerpieces for our tables that can fit nicely in our suitcases. We will ask a few guests to carry some of our supplies in one of their xtra suitcases.
Post # 11
@cande2014: I forgot to mention that the Sandals Grande Riviera is also all inclusive; we’re still going to have a sit-down dinner. They do offer a buffet option if you have 35+ attendees.
Post # 12
@cande2014: I’m imagining a very beautiful beach scene based on your decorations!
@aamyfisher: Yes, we ultimately decided on that. We are actually sending everyone a save the date with the website, and due to a compromise with Fiance and his family being upset about the destination wedding idea, we are sincluding a note explaining that this is what we want and no pressure to join us, and that they will get an invitation for our hometown celebration. The website will have the info about the wedding.
Here’s my question to you all, being people that like destination weddings, what do you think of my post here? http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/subsidize-guests#post-6198897
Post # 13
We are doing our wedding at an all inclusive resort (Dreams Los Cabos) and although we originally wanted to keep the guest list to a minimum, it got out of hand (as these things usually do) and we are now inviting 150 guests. We don’t think we will get anywhere CLOSE to that though and are hoping for around 30-50.
We’ve talked to friends who have done destination weddings and for the most part, that’s usually how it ends up. The majority don’t come but you still get a nice handful.
Post # 14
all inclusive is the way to do it…