Post # 1
Im a Texas bride to be and a future military wife as well. My Fiance has left all the details to me except ones where he absolutely has to be there. That being said I am looking at two options. An all inclusive site where they do everything right down to the wedding cake, or should I opt for choosing another venue and then hire vendors for everything. I have seen the all inclusive site and I was impressed with their service. I got to tour one hour before another brides wedding started. It was gorgeous. The price is great I think Im not really sure. For a party of up to 60 to do the wedding and reception, provide all food, decoration, minister, music, flowers, cakes for bride and groom, all the place settings, everythingggggggggggggggg except the dress and favors, its roughly 4800.00. For the price you get to consult on absolutely everything!!!
Of course the last option is hiring my own caterers, flowers, music, cakes for two, book the venue and the reception or hope to find someplace where I can do both and not have to move guest. I have totalled it up and it roughly comes to the same price maybe a little higher..
Has anyone else done this and what was your experience for or against all inclusive or DIY?
Post # 3
It all comes down to which is more important: variety or ease of options. More variety with other vendors, but it’s easier with an all inclusive. Take your pick.
Post # 4
I don’t think anyone else can make this call for you. If you prefer to have only place to work with and picking from their pre-selected options, then go for all-inclusive. If, however, you don’t quite like some of their features, then go with individual vendors.
My preference is that many all-inclusive type vendors don’t work for what I want in a wedding. That doesn’t inherently make them better. I also work with an all-inclusive venue when planning charity dinners, so I know how fantastic it is not to have to worry about extra rentals, decor, sound systems, etc.
Post # 5
It depends on who you are and how much effoert you are willing to put into your day. I’m DIY all the way! I like to have a fair amount of control of everything. I could never do an all-inclusive place as I don’t feel as if I would have enough opportunity to personalize our wedding enough. But that is a pretty good price! (Our budget is around $6,000 and I am doing everything on the cheap!)
Post # 6
My Fiance and I chose to go with an almost all inclusive. I’m sure it would have been cheaper do everything seperatly but we are willing to pay for convenience. I work 50+ hours a week and my Fiance works 12 hours night shifts at a hospital. We aren’t picky about table cloths, or chairs or even decorations. We just want to have a fun and stress free wedding. Our quote for 75 people came out to $7,600. That includes ceremony, reception, food, booze, dj, cake, centerpieces even our hotel room! That leaves us with flowers, officiant and the photographer. In our general lives we will almost always pay a little extra if it’s going to be easier, so we figured our wedding shouldn’t be any different.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
It depends on your priorities. I wanted and got a venue that did all the catering in house so that I didn’t have to worry about linens, tables, chairs, food, drink, etc, but I wanted to find my own florist, photographer, DJ, etc. Here’s why. My BFF married at an all-inclusive place and the photographer was so bad that they never bothered to order a single picture and just used the best pictures their guests took. His work seems fine in what they saw before they booked; guess they saw a very limited best-of. The flower selection was very limited and the bouquets and centerpieces were small and very understated. The DJ was okay, but DJs are in general the person most responsible for making the party work. A bad DJ can ruin the entire evening. The cake was provided by an amazing cake lady, so that worked out well.
But, since you have some extenuating circumstances, the convenience may be worth it, especially if you aren’t too demanding about what quality you are expecting from your vendors.
Post # 8
I am worried about the service and the extras for the all inclusive, so far the people have been very kind and knowledgeable. I like the idea of doing all inclusive because it means I dont have to worry about each individual thing. Also this is a second marriage for both of us. We have children and we both work full time. Its difficult to find the time to plan.
I just worry that I wont get what I want. Im unsure of how to approach the all inclusive venue and ask them about having everything the way I want it without offending them.
Post # 9
I think they are pros and cons. I have to have everyone come in, the bonus I get to pick vendors I like, and have a lot of options. The only con I can think of is being in charge of all those people day of and making sure everyone can get in at the time they want and get everything done, but I hired a wedding planner so she will be in charge it puts my mind more at ease.
Post # 10
Our venue is all-inclusive when it comes to food, alcohol, linens, etc. They will also set up our centerpieces, escort cards, . .
we used their referral list to choose our photographer and officiant. It was important to us that they be familiar with the venue. Our DJ was not on their list but has done weddings there before, as has our photo booth company.
Post # 11
@TexasSpringBride: Why are you worried about offending them? If you lay out what you want, simply ask them if they can make that happen and at what cost. They are a business. While you might have an individual contact at the facility who is a very nice person, they aren’t in the industry to make buddies with you. They work for a company designed to offer you a service at a price. If they can’t do something you want, they should be up front about that. If they can or are willing to do something a bit different, then they will be happy to slap a price tag on it for you. There should be nothing offensive about the process at all.
The key is that when you make these requests, you do it upfront before you sign a contract. Make sure your requests are in the contract. If they are, then you will be protected against miscommunications and false promises.
Post # 12
@TexasSpringBride: I have a package at my venue- it includes, cake, flowers, dj, and photographer (in addition to the caterering, tables, tableclothes etc- and luckily the place is already decorated with lots of white chiffon). Right off the bat I knew I did not want a DJ so they were able to credit me $500 (we are having a band instead). I met with the photographer they had for me and I did not like her at all, so they let me meet with another one (they have about 4 that take turns with the package weddings) who I loved.
A suggestion for you– find out exactly what is included in an all-inclusive or package. Although I am paying for about 130 people, only 10 centerpieces are included (10 tables- instead of 13) so we have to pay for the last 3 centerpieces. Also, the centerpieces included are small and low– so have to pay extra to upgrade them. I wasn’t aware of any of this when I booked at my venue.
So at my “package” venue, i’ve found that there are ways to get around certain things and to be a little picky.
Post # 13
They have a coordinator on site and I looked at all their reviews. So far it looks good. I want this to be as easy as possible considering we dont have alot of extra time to plan. I guess Im just worried that it will look generic. I dont want a wedding that looks like everyone elses.
Post # 14
Initially, we checked out some venues that were all-inclusive and we balked at the prices, thinking that we were being price-gouged. We went down the separate vendor route for pretty much everything we need (including chairs and a kitchen) and honestly, the prices are about the same as the all-inclusive packages or perhaps even more. There are some expenses that we probably could’ve skipped had we gone the all-inclusive route, like tips for so many “extra” people and extra vendor meals. Plus, trying to get everyone in the same timeline is looking to be an adventure. The saving grace is that about 1/2 of our vendors are familiar with each other and the location. Oh, and it’s a love-hate thing to be able to choose from a greater variety of options for everything.
Post # 15
@TexasSpringBride: If you are worried about being generic, then you need to decide what is important to you. I personally am ok with a generic wedding, since neither Fiance and I care about the decorations or things like that. But we are doing other things to make it our own. For example I am Mexican so it was important for me to have something that represented that. We will have mariachis playing during cocktail hour. Maybe once you know what you really want you can figure how to make their wedding package your own.
Post # 16
I’ve done both and would recommend the all-inclusive every time. Most places give you a ton of options and in those ways you get to personalize evrything the way you want it. It cost us FAR more to do all the rentals and vendors seperately, and was a ton of work.