(Closed) All my (single) friends do is talk about Tinder!

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

YESS my friends actually talked about tindr again today. i thought it was just for hooking up but they actually go on dates. i really don’t belong in this era. haha. 

Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

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damarajade:  Same! We met on POF. I was on for a week. Ended up texting 5 guys and going out with 3. Met my now-FI right away and shut it down. The volume of messages is certainly daunting!

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whitemochi622:  I will say that I did talk a lot about it during that week with my friends/coworkers. It’s fun to share the messages and pictures and such. It’s totally different from anything else so I can see why, if you haven’t experienced it, you wouldn’t have anything to contribute. I’ve been in similar situations (not in a single vs married type way, but other conversations I knew nothing about) and it is super awkward. This may be just a phase, I don’t think anybody can hold out doing online dating/app dating for that long without taking a break. In the meantime, either deal with the awkwardness and continue trying to steer the conversation to other things or try getting more couple friends. 

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee

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catpeaches:  I think Tinder started out as a hookup app and has since evolved. But I do think because of the format, if you’re on Tinder most people still think you’re looking for a hook up and not an actual relationship

Post # 19
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Busy bee

Everyone I know who uses tinder says the swiping can be addicting lol. I admit I’ve been envious from a novelty standpoint. That would have been fun to have when I was single over four years ago.

Sounds like maybe you reacted so prickly because you felt a little insecure being around the former Bridesmaid or Best Man and her opinions. One old BM’s sour attitude about marriage vs singlehood doesn’t have to color all your singles interactions. Maybe next time let the past and any present comments roll off your back and focus on the other more positive and engaging members of the group. Some of my friends have hilarious or crazy tinder stories so I’m sure yours do too, lol. 

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Haha I felt so old. All the girls my age at work were talking about it and had to show me how it worked etc.. I just feel out of the loop because there is not much point for an engaged girl to download Tinder!

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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TheGridMonster:  

+100 I agree. The thread opener smacks of “I am more mature than my single friends because I am married.” I don’t like that attitude at all. I am ALWAYS interested in hearing about my single friends’ love lives if they want to share. This is what friends do for each other. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

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whitemochi622:  I love hearing about Tinder. That site is hilarious, I’ve seen some interesting profiles through my single friends. If I were single, I’d be swiping left and right and talking about my experiences with others as well, so I don’t blame your friends for being on that topic for a while.

Priororties change… We all hit different life stages at different times. Hope you find some common ground between you and your single friends. Good Luck.

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Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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TheGridMonster:  I wish we could print out your response on business cards and pass them out to people who act like that! Thank you!

On the flip side, I probably would have left after about ten minutes, OP. But more because I think IQ points would be spilling out of my ears to listen to a group talk about an app. Seriously? I think there’s a difference between listening to a group talk about their love life (universal between single and married people, we all have stories and emotions and histories) and chatter about Tinder (not so much).

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

All my coworkers are single and on tinder and I love hearing their stories! One was even showing me hilarious pics of one of the weirdos she came across lol

i think you guys need to lighten up a bit or you might start losing friends

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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whitemochi622:  I have a friend (in her 30’s) who is very active on Tindr. She’s always asking me for advice also, which I can’t really give because I met DH before internet dating become common. I also try to ask her questions etc. about it, just to show her I’m interested in the ongoings of her life… but it’s definitely hard to find common ground when you’re married and Tindr is so far from what marriage is like…! 

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Idek what tinder is, lol.

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Seems to be a dating thing. I met Fiance on okcupid, and obviously that’s worked out well for me. If my single friends talked about their dating escapades, I’d be interested but honestly feel a bit relieved that my single years are over. I met the love of my life at age 22, and I know a lot of my friends, while they’re happy for me, wish that they had something similar.

Post # 28
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Worker bee

Lol! I know this thread is a couple days old but I just had to respond. I’m an “old” 25 year old in college right now and I feel SO out of the loop with this Tinder thing. I honestly just thought it was a hook up site. I met my DH at a party like people use to meet their boyfriends back in the old days 😉 I do have to say that it looks fun! I would never download it but I do wonder how many “swipe rights” I would get 

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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whitemochi622:  Yep!  I actually posted about something similar a couple months ago.  4 of us girl went for dinner.  I’m the only one who’s married, the other 3 are single.  They were all talking about hook-ups, randoms, this guy, that guy.  I haven’t been single in over 8 years so I couldn’t relate or add anything relevent to the convo, but I laughed a few times and tried to ask questions.  One of the girls had just returned from a 2 month trip, so between her talking about that, and all the guys in their lives, there was nothing of substance discussed.  I was asked how my summer was, and then got cut off after one sentance because one of the girls remembered something about another guy she wanted to tell us…Ugh.  I was seriously questioning my friendship after that, but have just tried to limit my time since then. 

I also have a girlfriend in her early 30s who has met some decent guys on Tinder, but she’s recently stopped discussing it with me.  Last time I saw her, she thought she sounded like a hoe (her words lol) because she was meeting a new guy every week for coffee or drinks.  It’s never amounted to anything other than a couple dates (no hooking up) but it’s definitely interesting.  And I’m not judging because I met DH online too!

Post # 30
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would not want to discuss any app for an hour.

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