(Closed) All of this waiting makes me want to just tell him to go away

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Big hugs!!! I’m really sorry. I really don’t know what to say to make you feel better, just know you have a tremendous virtual support system. That is probably one of the hardest situations to be in because you have already committed so much of your life to him. I know it’s hard but it might not be a bad idea to sit down and make sure you both want the same thing out of the relationship. I think you could better gauge the situation if you know his perspective.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I don’t think you were here when I wrote my post, but I got so much wisdom from it and felt sooo much better after I was done with it…  I have gone through every emotion in the waiting period, joy, frustration, anger, joy, and now i am in the anxiety phase (that I didn’t expect)… I am worried about how I’m going to pull all of this stuff together if he asks sooner than I expect him too Surprised….. other than that I’m just enjoying the wait to be quite honest with you…  relax your time will come to, I promise.

Anyone else getting pissed with waiting? MAJOR VENT

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I think because of the season all of us bees are getting a little crazy, myself included.

I think that we should just relax and enjoy the little butterflies that are in our stomach whenever we think about when and where and how it is going to happen.

You have a lifetime with this man so just enjoy being his girlfriend for now becasue it will never happen again.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

(((HUGS))) Trugem I totally understand! Plus the year is winding down and this is the time of the year where many bee’s feel annoyed.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

i know how you feel! it does hurt when you’ve been with someone for so long and they just keep dragging it out. i absolutely hate telling people how long i’ve been with my boyfriend for. last year i was asked so many times (mostly by girls who got engaged) and most of them ask how long has it been since you started dating and when i tell them they have this shocked look on their face and then they say “oh, i’m sure it’ll happen for you soon!”. i don’t need them to pity me. haha.

i think what makes it really tough for me is that most people in my family and his were married relatively quickly after starting to date and as pathetic as this sounds, i kind of feel like i’m still a kid (even though i’m 26) and nobody takes me seriously because we haven’t gotten married yet.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Ummmmm I am so totally at the exact same place you are! We see eachother EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. and the last week has just annoyed me to death. I find myself just wanting to be by myself and not having to deal with his lectures on whatever (he knows alooooooooot and likes to talk about everything) and him asking if I’ve seen this movie or that movie (for some reason we talk about movies alot). He’s getting on my last nerve. Like I said, I feel you and am also not sure what to do about it.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i remember this stage of the game and it is sooooo difficult to put the expectations aside and just be happy as is.  that said, it really helped me when i realized how many great opportunities i was ruining by holding my breath for “that moment.”  every time we went to dinner or out somewhere special i would get butterflies and think to myself “this is it!”  then, when i realized my mistake all i could feel was disappointment and sadness.  it took a long time but i came to the realization that all of this build up and subsequent let down was one big emotional rollercoaster i didn’t need to ride!  and, being so hyped up about a proposal meant that i was missing many fun, intimate, cozy relationship moments.  every event was somehow marred by its failure to produce a diamond.  it took effort but i had to decide to “live in the moment” (cliche, i know!) and enjoy each activity for what it was…another opportunity for me to spend time and be close with the guy that i love!  and believe me, once my thinking realigned i finally got my diamond…and i didn’t even see it coming!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I get like that too. Its so hard to wait and be patient. but don’t rush this time. I know you have been together a long time, but enjoy the time you are in. it will happen!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@truegem – i totally feel the same way!! i feel like girls who have been with someone a long time at least have a right to complain. haha.

sometimes i need to be away from my boyfriend, especially when i get mad. i was thisclose to staying at a friends place saturday night.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m kinda in the same boat as you trugem.  It’s been 6 years…and all the people I know who have been dating their Boyfriend or Best Friend for a year or two are getting engaged.  The “oh it’ll happen soon for you too” comments are hard to stomach, but I think people just don’t know what else to say.  I’m sure they mean no harm when they say that (atleast that’s what I like to think).  I just ignore it, it’ll happen eventually, even if it’s not as soon as I’d like.

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