(Closed) All the sudden… nothing seems right.

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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363 posts
Helper bee

Your dress is beautiful! As far as everything else goes I’m not sure if it’s normal because I haven’t started the actual planning…I just have ideas in my head.  But I’m sure it’s normal to feel that way seeing as how it’s one of biggest days of your life and something you’ve always dreamed about, and now your plans don’t fit your dreams. I think your colors are wonderful but if you wanted to soften them up you could always think about incorporating something pink into them. I love pink and brown and the pink and aqua would look amazing together. Sorry I wasn’t too much help, but just remember the best part…you’re getting to marry your best friend and that should trump all of the details!  By the way…when you have your hair and makeup on and that gorgeous dress how could not help but feel beautiful!

Post # 4
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7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Styles and preferences are always changing.  We see different ideas and suddenly our idea pales in comparison…Or does it?  Maybe you’re just needing a fresh look at your already good ideas?  I swear..I remember when I picked out my senior prom dress in high school.  One day I thought it was the most gorgeous thing I’d ever seen.  A week later, I thought I wanted a new one and then I found out a girl got one almost exactly like mine but in a different color and I came home in tears.  I ended up wearing my dress and felt amazing.  Just a little time and a fresh perspective is all that’s needed sometimes!  

Your dress is beautiful.  I love your color choice.  You can always have some pics made before the wedding outdoors btw to get that feel.  You can also show pics to the photog friend of styles of other photogs that you admire and see if he/she can emulate that!

And you can bring a touch of the outdoors indoors with some floral or creative arrangements! 

this will pass Jeska.  Trust me.  Wait a few days.  Take a few breaths.  Reevaluate your wedding in a few days when this has blown over.  A fresh approach will bring new inspiration to your already good ideas!

When I feel this way, I have a hot tea and take a warm bubblebath.  Really.  Just be good to yourself tonight and rest.  Bring the ideas back to the hive in a little while when you’re ready to get back into wedding mode!  Always friends here to help.

Post # 6
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225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Don’t worry, Jeska! I think its normal that the wedding details are not what you thought they would be! But it doesn’t mean it still won’t be perfect! In the end, you are marrying the love of your life – and that’s the important part!

Your dress is gorgeous! All that beading is gonna come out GREAT in pictures! You’ll see! It should be altered to fit, but if you are afraid of it falling, use hollywood tape. Once you have your hair and makeup all done and put together, you’ll feel gorgeous – but he’ll think so no matter what!

I always remember when I was my sister’s Maid/Matron of Honor and things were not going as planned, and I asked her, "why do you seem so calm and carefree even though these things went wrong?" What would normally throw her in a rage didn’t, because she couldn’t feel happier, "all that matters is that I’m marrying him today," she said, and it’s true!

FYI – my colors are chocolate brown and tiffany blue, too! I let mr. tofu pick them – so since he picked them, i like them, too. 

Post # 7
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2640 posts
Sugar bee

Your dress is beautiful.  If you’re like me, you se all kinds of things, dress, colors, flowers… that look so pretty and think "I want that.  Why didn’t I think of that."  But no one, no amount of money can get you seven different color schemes.  Or seven differnt dress etc.  It sounds like what you have chosen is going to be lovely. 

Good luck.  Keep us updated.

Post # 10
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220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I think it is completely normal to have second thoughts about your various choices.  At least I hope it is because I am having them too!

Post # 11
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156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009 - Beach Social Hall

I’m sure it will pass. I catch myself second guessing my decisions all the time, but ultimately end up happy with my first instinct 🙂

Post # 12
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7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

It IS a woman’s perogative to change her mind at any time and as many times as we want!!!!! 

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