(Closed) all this fighting and NOW he’s KISSING my butt??!!

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you already know the answer, you’re just nervous to make the step. I missed your first post and went back and read it and it doesn’t sounds like he’s on the same page as you. How could he tell you two weeks ago that he’s not ready or sure of a future with you, but this week say he wants to settle down and doesn’t want to move to be with you? So does he just want what’s convenient when he decides he wants it with whoever is available? I’m really confused by his behaviour. Plus, it sounds to me like you’ve already mentally checked out of this relationship.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I was once in a relationship where the guy was completely in love with me and I didn’t want to leave because I knew it would kill him. I would start arguments so he could give me a good reason to leave; he never did. You have to move on, it will hurt him but eventually he will get over it. 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I was in a relationship like that once, and we were together for three years. I actually told my ex two months before I left him that if he didn’t start treating me better, I would leave. I actually waited for him to answer but he just shrugged at me and said okay, and a few months later I left him. 

Afterwards he tried to ‘change’ for me. Tried to convince me to come back, even proposed after we broke up in hopes of bringing me back. As bakerella said above, I think you already know the answer. It took me three or four months to get up the nerve to even leave my ex, but it was all for the better. If you’re ready to leave, and you need to move for the new job, then it’s probably best to just go and not look back. 

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