(Closed) All Wedding-ed Out?? Seriously?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ok wait, I’m confused. She actually married this guy she knew for less than 2 week or they have some sort of “contract”? What do you mean, not a “real” marriage?

If she did really marry him, that is a bit on the crazy side to me! wow! I can’t imagine! How did she tell you?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

Is she all weddinged-out from talking about your wedding perhaps? I know that one of my bridesmaids is sick of hearing about it, so I try not to bring it up unless she does. 

Post # 6
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137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m confused too. How is it not real if she went to the courthouse?

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

OMG Amber1279.. I understand your point of the topic but I have a feeling you are going to get a lot more people interested in your friends topic!! 

I would say I am wondering if she is "wedding out" by your wedding….

As for your friend.. WOW… I have heard of people saying that would just get married for different reason and seen my fair share of movies with that happening but now I get to say that I have actully interated with a someone who knows someone who did it …

Post # 8
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Helper bee

hm… that type of marrying doesn’t seem right to me… almost like that would be illegal to do something like that… but i have no idea so to each their own.

i can see why you might be upset about this.  because you feel that she should be there to support you and that her excuse isn’t really valid.  but it’s how she feels and you can’t change that, you can be right or feel just all you want but it’s not going to change her mind.  ^_^

maybe you should turn to another friend then? or just go with the groom to be… I seriously drag my groom to be everywhere… i don’t care if it’s girls only take care of sort of thing… he’s coming with.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

awww, that’s not cool! Sounds like your friend is being a little self-centered. If I were there I would so go with you. I don’t have any close female friends living in town to do stuff like that with.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Of course another possibility is that she isn’t feeling so great about her decision. Maybe a part of her realizes that going to this with you will make her realize all that she is missing out on by choosing to get married the way she has. I can’t imagine why anyone would choose a marriage of convenience without love in this day and age.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow, your friend is crazy!!! Did one of them need a Visa? LoL.

It sucks that she isn’t being a good friend to you for your "real" wedding. I see what you mean by that. Well, can’t say I’d ever want to do what she did. Maybe your wedding makes her sad, like missrain said? 

Use it as bonding time with your daughter! 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I’m taking a stab at speaking for Amer, so correct me if I’m wrong.  I think she means it’s not a real marriage because the friend and this guy don’t really love each other.  They are getting married for the benefits.  (Not that it’s not a real marraige because they are going to a JOP.)  Also, I’m not sure if it would be considered illegal, but the term insurance fraud comes to mind.  Is someone here an insurance person??  I think it would be considered a sneaky way to obtain insurance.  But I don’t think there is any way to police it. 

Back to your situation.  Sorry she’s being weird.  It’s hard to say why she’s not supporting you.  Are weddings not her thing?  Is she kind of over doing Bridesmaid or Best Man duties when she won’t be a BM?  Is she kind of regretting marrying a guy she knows she’ll divorce? ( And wonders when she meets the right guy, if it won’t seem so special.) She’s not really respecting the institute of marriage.

It doesn’t sound like she should legitimately be weddinged out due to her own planning, or yours.  Try not to take it too personally.  Sometimes excues are excuses.  Maybe she just realized from what you have done together you have completely different styles and she’ll be of no hope.  (Maybe she hated the dresses you loved, or the floral arrangements.)

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I totally understand you wanting to go just to go. I am the same way. Is there another friend or family member that can go with you? What about your daughter? Is she old enough to keep you company? It could be a fun mom/daughter date!

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This is really embarrassing as a Marine wife to read about contract marriages.  I hear about it all the time, being that I am a Marine Brat as well and have been around the military my entire life.  I just think it is absolutely ridiculous and I believe she will regret what she’s done when she meets the man she actually wants to marry and be with forever.  A good man probably won’t appreciate how she’s treated marriage in the past.

As for being wedding’ed out, it sounds like she’s a little overwhelmed by what SHE’S just done, and going to the bridal show with you will be a reminder of it.  Frankly, she sounds selfish.

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