Post # 1
Need some input here.
So today, while I was home for lunch my Shiba-Coyote, Lilly, caught a bird. She does this probably once every two or three weeks. She doesnt tear them apart or anything gruesome. She carries it around like its her baby and just lays there with it…it’s weird…and gross. But I really can’t do much to stop her, she catches them as they are flying through the air (she’s mama’s talented girl). So anywho, I posted a status about it on facebook saying “Ugh, so tired of Lilly killing birds! How do I get her to stop doing this?”
So I got a couple of different suggestions and talking to people back and forth about how to deal with it. Then my friend, lets call her Sarah, posted “Whoop her so bad that she can’t even eat her own food”.
So, to explain to you all how much I adore my dogs is impossible. They ARE my children. I love them more than I could ever explain. That comment just really started to eat at me. Finally I commented back saying “I really don’t think that’s funny, I would never hit my dogs.”
It went back and forth, I won’t type all that out. But she got pissed because she thought I shouldnt’ get angry and I got pissed because you don’t ever joke about hurting my dogs. The thought of my poor girl being so hurt that she can’t even eat her own food makes me so sick.
So, sorry for the long post but am I being dramatic? Or is she as stupid as I think she is? Because now there is a fight and I hate the drama. I really don’t want this in my life but i’m not really sure if I need to apologize (not quite sure what for) or if I should just it go. Thanks ladies.
Post # 3
I am with you actually. My SO’s brother talks about how we need to hit our puppy into a wall to train him and I get sooo pissed off. I want to hit him when he says that. I also always tell him that he is not an owner to my puppy so he is never never allowed to punish my dog in any way shape or form. It is not funny to me either. My puppy is my baby.
Post # 4
I don’t think that you were being ovely being dramatic at all … your friend was way out out of line when she suggested that you hit your dog, even if it was said in a joking matter. lMy Irish Terrier, Finn is the closest thing that I have to a child – and I would have reacted in much the same way that you did if anybody ever said something like that to me! No apology is necessary on your part!
Post # 5
I don’t think you overreacted, but I probably would have just ignored the comment, it’s one of those things you cant win over Facebook.
Post # 6
@teabiscuit: Agreed, I stopped commenting back after awhile because it’s just stupid. I texted her because I hate drama and it just got worse. She just kept making stupid comments so whatever, at least now I know what kind of friend she is. Agh. I hate drama.
Post # 7
I’m with you, as well. I don’t find even the suggestion of animal abuse funny. At all. We went over to my step brother’s house a while ago (we aren’t close at all), and he made a comment about how hard his dog’s head is, and he knows this because he’s broken knuckles on it…uhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
An old coworker of mine posted a picture of a raccoon that he’d caught in a live trap, and I commented that it was cute. His wife posted something like, “Oh no, this little effer killed one of my daughter’s chickens and I would put a bullet through his head again!” GROSS! I commented back that killing a WILD ANIMAL for DOING IT’S BEST TO SURVIVE is sick, when they could have easily relocated it. I asked what the hell the purpose of the live trap was for if they were just going to shoot it anyway, and they had no response. I don’t care if they’re destructive; all it did was kill a chicken and eat it because THAT’S WHAT WILD ANIMALS DO. Sorry your kid cried over her “show chicken,” but a) teach her about the circle of life, and b) RELOCATE THE DAMN THING.
Post # 8
@vorpalette: Wow about your step brother. 🙁 Poor pup.
And about the racoon killers…what the hell?! Like you said, why even have a live trap then? Stupidddd!
Post # 9
I do not think you overreacted at all, @Birdee106. I’m the same way about my dogs and have never (would never) lay a hand on them. I find “joking” about hitting animals absolutely disgusting.
For what it’s worth, my little guy, Helo (in my profile pic), has caught animals a couple times and it always breaks my heart. He carried a screaming baby bunny around the backyard once, but once he dropped it, it ended up being fine and hopped under the fence to safety. But scared us both to death! I wish I could manage to train him to have better impulse control around critters in the backyard, but so far he’s not 100% with leaving things alone. 🙁
Post # 10
Her comment is horrific. I can’t even imagine why anyone in their right mind would find that funny. If anyone ever said anything like that about my kitties (or ANY animal for that matter!), you bet your ass they would no longer be a friend of mine. Her comment was disgusting.
Post # 11
Well yes, animals need boundaries and at times discipline, but not in that disgusting inhumane way your FB friend talks about.
Honestly, at the end of the day they are Animal first , then Dogs, then their breed- and honestly it is a natural thing for them to hunt- its all about prey drive.
You can’t really ask her to reverse nature and biology, rather set her up for success, not failure! If she is going to be outside, supervise her and play with things with her that she can chase, catch, bite whatever!
Yes, you friend is simply stating the only thing she may know to offer, and while we see it as ignorance you have to choose to let it go. Tell her your thoughts on the matter, and even educate her if youd like. Its okay to be upset when you hear about abuse, because well…who in their right mind wouldn’t!
Post # 12
I’d have probably ignored it. But I don’t consider my animals to be my children either. Sometimes things come out wrong on Facebook.
Post # 13
@Eva Peron: Yeah, I had a great suggestion from a friend to put bells on her collar so that animals hear her coming. I would love to be out back with her all the time but we just let them come and go as they please, she usually spend at least 9 hours a day outside by choice.
Post # 14
I agree with PP. You weren’t overreacting at all. Pets are your babies, but a lot of people don’t understand this type of connection. Your friend may have just been joking, I hope, and it was inappropriate. But anyway, I think the best way to deal with people like that is to say what you need to get off your chest so they know it isn’t tolerated, and ignore them afterward. I think you handled it well.
Post # 15
some people are so disgusting.
i would be horrified if someone said that to me. Lets just beat her till she cant eat next time she does something shes NOT suppose to!
Post # 16
@KatyElle: I think even people who wouldn’t consider their animals their babies would find the OP’s friend’s comment incredibly harsh! Although I hope it was more of a poorly worded/though-out comment than a literal suggestion…