Post # 1
Not sure if this is the right place to post this. Fiance and I are having a small civil ceremony in advance of our larger church celebration. We originally were going to elope, then we decided to have his parents and my best friend. So that’s 5 of us in total, plus an officiant. We are planning on just doing it in a restaurant and having lunch after.
Today best friend says she has a question, no big deal if I say no, she knows I want to keep the wedding intimate but can she bring a date so she’s paired with someone. For the larger celebration I would understand this request (and she wouldn’t even have to ask). I don’t understand that she asked at all for a more intimate affair. If its no big deal either way, why ask? She’s seeing someone but not in a committed relationship, and truthfully I’m not his biggest fan. Am I wrong if I say no?
Post # 3
I think you’re stressing about it a little too much. Just tell her no (nicely) and I’m sure she’ll understand. She already said it would be fine if you said no.
Post # 4
@red_rose: You’re probably right. I just couldn’t understand why even ask. I guess she figured it couldn’t hurt.
Post # 5
She told you it didn’t matter, so I would just say no, if that’s what you wish. Doesn’t sound like a big deal.
Post # 6
Also, if it’s just your best friend, then I assume she knows your family. I think it’s fine to not let her bring a date, just tell her and be done with it.
Post # 7
Ehh I would just say no. Small and intimate doesn’t equal family +1 random to me haha
Post # 8
if it’s not a b/f or husband, than no. Why would she think it would be appropriate to bring a randomer to your very intamite wedding?
Post # 9
You shouldn’t have anyone you don’t want at your wedding. It’s about you, not your friend. Besides, she said it doesn’t matter either way.
Post # 10
I think she can handle going stag for an afternoon since your celebration is a handful of people.