(Closed) Allowing a girlfriend of a groomsman to sit with wedding party at reception

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Definitely wouldn’t look weird. It’s very common to have the dates of the bridal party sitting at the head table, and it will probably make both your groomsman and his girlfriend much more comfortable!!

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree with amanda.lynn.  Spouses or girlfriends of the bridal party usually sit at the head table with the attendants.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think that would be just fine! And it’s wonderful of you to go out of your way to make her feel included.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I dont think it would look weird.  If you were open to the idea you could do a sweetheart table for just you and your husband and have the bridal party and each of their dates sit at tables next to you.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i would love to do this, but all of our bridal party is either married/engaged/attached, and theres no way to fit everyone around one table…and we do not want a sweetheart table.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Thats a very sweet gesture on your end but I dont think you should let her sit with the wedding party. there will be im sure lots of people who dont know each other at the wedding, I have yet to attend a wedding where i knew who every single person was. I dont think you should cater to her needs especially since you dont know her that well.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

My vote is NO.  the girlfriend will be in all your pictures if you let her sit w/ the wedding party table.

from a selfish perspective – if that was my friend, i wouldn’t want a girl he is “currently” dating to be in my pictures that are suppose to last forever and the girlfriends comes and go.  Unless it is his WIFE then i would consider it.  otherwise, i would not want a stranger in my picture for the rest of my list in such important “wedding party” table pictures.

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i think is fine and there should not be any trouble

 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

I thought you were doing a wedding party table with you, your husband and the bridal party. If you are sitting with both sets of parents and the bridal party is at another table its perfectly fine to have everyone sit with their dates or husbands/wifes. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m having a boyfriend and a wife of two of our people sit with us. It kind of hurts my control-freak, perfectionist heart..lol, but I figured oh, well, what’s the big deal. Seems silly to make them sit apart during dinner when as soon as the party part starts everyone moves around anyway… everyone will have fun, no matter where they sit..

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i’d definitely let the girlfrient sit with the groomsmen. we’re having our bridal party sit with their dates and other friends, ie splt up into friend groups and no head-table, as fi and i will sit with our parents and siblings–for me, it’s more important that everyone be comfortable and have fun than almost anything else

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

As you are one of the hosts for the wedding, it would be a very gracious move on your part. Honestly, I haven’t seen a wedding party-only table in a long time. Since you’re doing a sweetheart table, yours will be the table getting the most attention anyhow 🙂

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