Post # 1
Hi everyone I am new to the boards. My finance and I will be getting married in June. We have two married couples and two dating couples in our wedding party. The fifth bridesmaid and groomsman that are paired together each have a boyfriend and girlfriend. We invited both of them to the wedding. The fifth bridesmaid’s boyfriend recently got orders to do some Air Force training in Korea so he will not be able to attend the wedding. The fifth groomsman has been a close friend of my fiance since childhood. I also consider him a good friend too. He recently told his that his girlfriend doesn’t feel like attending the wedding. They have been dating for a year but she rarely comes over to get togethers. She always seemed shy. Our friend revelead to us that she suffers from anxiety disorder, depression and a mild form of bipolar disorder. He said that she has a hard time try fitting in with people because she thinks that she is too awkward or weird for others to accept her. She gets paranoid about a lot of things.
We originally planned to have a table for her, the bridesmaid’s boyfriend and the parents of the groomsman and bridesmaid to all sit together. at the reception. Our friend told us that his parents won’t be able to attend the wedding due to an out of state family reunion that was recently planned and he feels that his girlfriend will feel really left out sitting with people she doesn’t know that well and combined with her mental health issues she doesn’t feel like she is up to going to the wedding.
My fiance and I are thinking about allowing the girlfriend to sit with the wedding party. Would this look too weird? We want her to feel accepted by all our friends and we want our friend to have a good time at the wedding if she goes.
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Definitely wouldn’t look weird. It’s very common to have the dates of the bridal party sitting at the head table, and it will probably make both your groomsman and his girlfriend much more comfortable!!
Post # 4
I agree with amanda.lynn. Spouses or girlfriends of the bridal party usually sit at the head table with the attendants.
Post # 5
I think that would be just fine! And it’s wonderful of you to go out of your way to make her feel included.
Post # 6
I dont think it would look weird. If you were open to the idea you could do a sweetheart table for just you and your husband and have the bridal party and each of their dates sit at tables next to you.
Post # 7
i would love to do this, but all of our bridal party is either married/engaged/attached, and theres no way to fit everyone around one table…and we do not want a sweetheart table.
Post # 8
Thats a very sweet gesture on your end but I dont think you should let her sit with the wedding party. there will be im sure lots of people who dont know each other at the wedding, I have yet to attend a wedding where i knew who every single person was. I dont think you should cater to her needs especially since you dont know her that well.
Post # 9
We are sort of having a sweetheart table. We are going to git on a table with both our parents. The wedding party table will be close by.
I really want my friend’s girlfriend to feel included. For a long time everyone thought she was shy and maybe didn’t like the stuff we like doing but now we understand more why she doesn’t hang out with us. I think she does want to hang out with us but she fears us all in a lot of ways. Our friend said he was a bit embarrassed to tell about her mental health problems. I have a cousin who is bipolar and she always fears people rejecting her. Our friend says he plans to tell out other friends who are in the wedding party about what is going with her. I do hope none of them stigmatize her.
Post # 10
My vote is NO. the girlfriend will be in all your pictures if you let her sit w/ the wedding party table.
from a selfish perspective – if that was my friend, i wouldn’t want a girl he is “currently” dating to be in my pictures that are suppose to last forever and the girlfriends comes and go. Unless it is his WIFE then i would consider it. otherwise, i would not want a stranger in my picture for the rest of my list in such important “wedding party” table pictures.
Post # 11
i think is fine and there should not be any trouble
Post # 12
I thought you were doing a wedding party table with you, your husband and the bridal party. If you are sitting with both sets of parents and the bridal party is at another table its perfectly fine to have everyone sit with their dates or husbands/wifes.
Post # 13
I’m having a boyfriend and a wife of two of our people sit with us. It kind of hurts my control-freak, perfectionist heart..lol, but I figured oh, well, what’s the big deal. Seems silly to make them sit apart during dinner when as soon as the party part starts everyone moves around anyway… everyone will have fun, no matter where they sit..
Post # 14
i’d definitely let the girlfrient sit with the groomsmen. we’re having our bridal party sit with their dates and other friends, ie splt up into friend groups and no head-table, as fi and i will sit with our parents and siblings–for me, it’s more important that everyone be comfortable and have fun than almost anything else
Post # 15
Our wedding party pictures will probably be taken at church after the wedding and around the wedding cake at the reception. There will be reception pictures but I don’t think there will be any official pictures of the wedding party at the table.
Post # 16
As you are one of the hosts for the wedding, it would be a very gracious move on your part. Honestly, I haven’t seen a wedding party-only table in a long time. Since you’re doing a sweetheart table, yours will be the table getting the most attention anyhow 🙂