(Closed) Allowing Bridesmaids Dress Freedom

• Bride2BeeVA28
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: October 2012

I like this only when the fabric and color of the dresses are the same.  To me it looks off when the fabrics and dress styles are radically different.

• MissKK
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: October 2012

I am having my bms wear long black satin dresses but the style is totally up to them. they all insisted that each one wears a different dress…all was great til two picked the same dress!…i just want each girl to be happy and comfortable in their dress. 

• ProfessorGirl
• 9 years ago

I’m having only one attendant, so I did not have this choice to make! But I recently went to the wedding of a friend who did exactly what you’re doing, and all 5 girls picked blue dresses that showed their own individual style, and it was gorgeous. Gorgeous, gorgeous, gorgeous.

• andielovesj
• 9 years ago

I did this for my wedding.  I had 2 rules; dark purple (any shade, didn’t have to match), and not too slutty.

I did get some push back from one or two of the BMs who thought I would regret not having all matchy matchy dresses.  But I 100% do not regret it. 

I think matching can appear that you care more for the aesthetics then the comfort and look of the girls.  I hate seeing people in dresses that don’t suit their bodies or personal style.

• ProfessorGirl
• 9 years ago

• cajungirl81
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: August 2013

I’d originally planned on doing something similar, and was fully prepared to pick a color and fabric and let my girls go wild.  But everyone ended up liking the same two dresses, and that was fine too.

• ekp12
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: June 2012

My Bridesmaid or Best Man are all wearing the same dress. I think letting them choose their own could work but I can also see how it can cause problems. I’m a little OCD about things, plus I bought the dresses for them so they didn’t have to buy something they didn’t like. They all liked the dress I picked though so it worked out.

One thing I did think about was having the Maid/Matron of Honor in a different dress then the Bridesmaid or Best Man but I ended up with keeping them all the same.

• arabesque
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

My bridesmaids all have different body types and skin color, so I am doing the same with just picking a color that we’ll determine together.  I did a poll for dress length and 4 out of 5 bridesmaids preferred short dresses in chiffon fabric.  So same color and fabric, but different styles.  I think matching bridesmaids dresses are outdated and unrealistic, personally.  I want them to be comfortable!

• bikukii
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: October 2013

Alfred Sung D532 in Jubilee. It’s really lovely IRL, too.