Post # 1
What are your thoughts on this? I’ve heard arguments both for and against and they both have valid points. Will you allow requests at your reception or not, and if you did allow them (assuming you are already married) did it turn out ok or was it a disaster?
Post # 3
I think it’s OK to let guests make some requests. It can be a lot of fun. At my friend’s wedding last year all the BMs made a special request for a song that was meaningful to us and the bride and we had a grand old time dancing and it surprised her and she was excited about it. I’d just make sure the DJ had a list of songs you despise first and give him a limited number of “special request” songs he can play. If someone requests something you hate you can have him say he doesn’t have it.
Post # 4
I would allow them! I think it would add to the fun. If I do actually provide a “do not play list” for the band than I would obviously not want them to play songs that I don’t like …
Post # 5
I think it’s okay to allow requests, but I would come up with a DO NOT PLAY NO MATTER WHAT list so your DJ knows that if a request comes up and it’s on your list, then don’t play it.
Post # 6
I think it can be fun but somehow I have a feeling that my guest will request some of the dont play songs (electric slide, i will survive, anything disco) that i have asked no to be played – so instead of them getting mad at them for not playing their requested songs – im not sure if to just tell them they arent accepting any requests?
Im sorry, but we are paying good money for two distinct types of music (DJ and a band) to play the music we want played – and I kind of dont want someone messing up the party that I would hope to enjoy as well ( dont get me wrong we are playing some partying music) but we have distinct guests so i dont want to entire night for those guests to be bored while others dance their asses off – so we are splitting the night up to accomodate everyone’s taste and ours 🙂
Post # 7
We are actually putting a request song line on the RSVP, so guests can request away and we can screen stuff we really hate.
Post # 8
I think it’s fun- it gets your guests more involved! Just make sure your DJ is firm when it comes to your DNP list 🙂
Post # 9
We had a DNP list, but also allowed for requests from our guests. Our DJ actually specifically asked us what we would like him to do in the event that someone requested a song on our DNP list, which I thought was smart of him.
Post # 10
I would let guests make requests, especially if you want them dancing, but I’d also set up a do not play list so you make sure you won’t hear songs you really don’t want/like.
Post # 11
We basically told our DJ to use his judgement. We talked to him about what music we liked & we said that once he got a good read on our crowd, to only play a request song if he thought people would dance to it. We also pretty much told him that certain people (I won’t name names but they are related to the groom!) were NOT allowed to make requests, no matter what. And that if my mom or dad made a request that the DJ must ABSOLUTELY play it (lol, my hubby agreed with me on this one- my parents are incredibly reasonable and were paying for everything, so if they wanted a song, goshdarnit, they were going to get that song!!!!).
It turned out just fine, and actually the only song from our “Do Not PLay” list actually got played because my hubby requested it! HAHAHA!
Post # 12
We had a do not play list and let guests make requests, and it worked out fine. We actually were serenaded by my husband’s father with “White Wedding” and had some other memorable moments that wouldn’t have happened if we hadn’t let guests request songs.
Post # 13
We’ll probably let it happen with a “do-not-play” list (I have a bridesmaid who thinks that 90% of wedding music should be things like the chicken dance and electric slide!!! LOL!) but we also put a music request form on our wedding website!
Post # 14
I think I’d let guests make requests & give the DJ a do not play list and some general guidelines (Ours would be no rap.)
Post # 15
I agree with the do not play list. I think it’s important to let guests request a song. You probably aren’t going to be preoccupied with the dance floor the entire night. And take it from me, you probably shouldn’t be.
@ Stacy Marie -So you let guests write down a song on the invitations? That is a cool idea. Yeah, not only can you go through it. But you or the DJ can tally if ther are some songs more requested than others, and be sure to play those.
Post # 16
Our DJ allows a certain number of requests (can’t remember what it is) but they can’t be off our “do not play” list. We mostly don’t want this group of our relatives requesting “Sweet Caroline” to be obnoxious (we’re huge Yankees fans and entering the reception to “New York, New York”) or anyone requesting any stupid dance songs (Electric Slide, etc.)
I think it’s fun to be able to request stuff though. At my cousin’s wedding, we all really wanted to hear Build Me Up Buttercup (like a group of 10 of us) and the DJ was NOT having it and that was kind of a bummer.