Post # 1
I’ll be 33 in a few months. We’ve barely been married a year…and to be honest I wouldn’t mind waiting a few more years before ttc but I feel maybe it’s better to start sooner rather than later just in case we face issues conceiving. But here is where I’m stuck. I’m kind of enjoying my life now, my freedom and the fact that we get to travel. Next summer we’re planning on a big European vacation that I’m so excited to go on. At the same time, we talked about about possibly starting to try for a baby this fall.
I keep thinking what if we get pregnant right away? I don’t really feel ready now and I would have liked to take that big trip beforehand. On the other hand, I also think, what if I put off trying to conceive until a year from now and then we have trouble–will I always regret not starting sooner?
I’m racking my brain over this issue and I’m not sure what to do. Should I start trying and see what happens or should I just wait another year? Anyone who has experienced anything similar or just good advice, I would really appreciate it!
Post # 3
I had our son when I was 31 and am now 33 (hopefully preggo with #2!). My age wasn’t so much a factor- I know a lot of people who are starting later than us because of careers, life circumstances etc. Darling Husband is 42, so we wanted to have our kids now because we really want them and because he isn’t getting any younger lol. If you don’t feel ready now, I’d personally wait. It’s a huge life change and you don’t want to have any regrets. We still travel frequently, but it’s trickier with a baby/toddler for sure….still fun and doable, but trickier:) Good luck on your decision making- I’m sure whatever you choose to do will work out!
Post # 4
I know a ton of people who didn’t have their first child until after 35. It’s not that big of a deal, thankfully! Having the time to build a firm foundation for your marriage is definitely better than rushing to have a baby you would have been able to have 2 years later anyway.
Post # 5
I talked to my gyn about this just the other week since I’m about to turn 34. She said I don’t even need to worry about it until 40. If you’re a healthy woman with normal check-ups too, you have plenty of time.
Post # 6
its tough, because no one knows how long it will take them to conceive or if theyll have any problems until they actually give it a go. so it could be first cycle or it could take years
it might be worth consulting a doctor and getting their opinion.
Post # 7
Considering I had my first child at ripe old age of 37 and we are thinking about #2 (will be 40 come this fall) I think it is fine to wait, though just remember there can be complications as you age.
Post # 8
@temporary: I’m in a similar boat myself. I am 37 and my Darling Husband is 51. We have only been married 2 months. We had agreed to wait a year before trying, but I feel very concerned about waiting even that long. However my dcotor did say the same thing as @JLR1982: with not really needing to worry much uintil you hit 40. My mom had me when she was 44. I do have some fertility issues that I already know about (PCOS) but I do feel as though Darling Husband and I need to wait and adjust to married life as we agreed at the outset.
Post # 9
I would go to a gynecologist and have things looked into….
I went to one when I found out that I have osteopenia and need to go off my birthcontrol…when I go off it can take a year to get back to regular cycles…I also have endometriosis and pcos….and I’m 33…
I don’t want to TTC until after our honeymoon in december…..and the ob/gyn said it’s fine….I have a follow up in november….
Post # 10
Unfortunately, you won’t know whether you will have trouble conceiving until you start trying. Plenty of 30 something mom’s get pregnant the very first time they try. There’s also plenty who take a little longer. I don’t want to scare you, but I just turned 33 and have been trying for over a year with no luck. All our tests come back a-okay. If I were you, I would stop taking birth control now and start trying to figure out your cycle. Learn when/if you ovulate, learn how long your luteal phase is. Chart your BBT, join the charters thread. All of this will help you know if there is a problem that you may want to deal with sooner rather than later. Good luck!
Post # 11
I would discuss with your doctor if you could have your ovarian reserve tested. I believe there are noninvasive blood tests that can estimate your egg quality. This is no guarantee that you have another year, but I would have noninvasive testing done and wait if the results are good. My ob also told me that he recommends finishing family planning by 40 (i had my 1st at 33. And had no trouble getting pregnant). The chances of disabilities increase as you get older, but there are sophisticated prenatal tests that can help you assess your chances of having a healthy pregnancy.
Post # 12
Make sure that you are emotionally and financially ready before you start to try. If the options are this Fall or in one year, maybe agree on spring next year? For all you know, it could happen the first month!
Post # 13
I got married just shy of 33 as well, I stopped taking BC pills a few weeks after the wedding and it took us an entire year to conceive. It’s really a situation that is hard to plan and predict the outcome on, you just have to chose which is more important to you right now. I ideally wanted to wait until we had been married for a year, but considering the possible complications, risk of miscarriage, etc, we decided to go for it. For us there was always time for vacation, not always time to make babies before risks start to increase…
Post # 14
I’m in a similar situation and was having a little freak out. I’m 34 and am really looking forward to trying but want to move home (from living overseas) before we start. I was worried I was leaving it too late so I started charting to make sure I was ovulating and my luteal phase was normal. I found out everything was looking good so it put my mind at rest. I also checked my ovarian reserve and it came back with really positive results so I feel like a huge weight has lifted off my shoulders. We will wait and start trying early next year 🙂
Post # 15
I’m 38 and we just started TTC a few months ago. Yes, it gets harder as you get older usually, but I know just as many women who had trouble at 28 as I do in thief late 30’s/early 40’s. it really all depends on you and your body and you won’t know until you try. It sucks but its the truth. In all honest, I don’t Think an extra 6 months (fall vs after your vacation) will make a ton of difference.
Post # 16
start trying on your vacation! You really never know what is going to happen. You may get pregnant right away. I was a month shy of my 35th birthday when we started trying and I got pregnant on the second try. I don’t think postponing it a year will make a huge difference in your chances.