Yes, space is what we’re attempting here…space is what HE needs, and the problem is tht whenever we fight (can start out something small), I need to talk it out, and he needs space and the fight blows up because we don’t give anything time to kind of cool down…and we live together, so it’s hard to get/give each other space when we need it.
Plus, I moved here and took a teaching job at a school where he does part-time IT work. So he stopped by the school right around dismissal and was very cold. He let me know he’d be working till 11 or 12 tonight (AT the school), so don’t expect him home before that. I asked him if he wanted to walk me out to my car. He siad “No, I’m busy.”
He said, “Have a good night at church.” (thank GOD it is Lent and I have church services to go to on weeknights, that’s all I can say!), gave me a quick kiss…I lingered somewhat pathetically, said, “I love you” and grabbed him for another kiss.
He said, “I love you too. But it’s still not enough.” Ouch.
I said, “Honey. I love you…” (nothing) “I love you.”
He said, “I love you too.”
Then I left.
GGGGAAAAAAAAAAHHHHH this is so f-ing painful.
So my question is: Do I bring him dinner around 9 pm at the school (assuming he won’t get a chance to eat between responsibility number 1 and working late at the school)?
Bear in mind that: right now, he basically wants NO part of me. Right now he is incapable of showing me anything resembling kindness, love, or affection.
And yet: today he mailed the rest of the save-the-dates, AND he let me know where he would be for the next few hours instead of just leaving me to wonder (on the other hand, maybe he just told me that so he wouldn’t have to call me later to let me know.)
GGGGGGGGAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHH this hurts. so. much.
Advice for the question above??