Post # 1
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
So, my engagement photos are scheduled about a month away and I have some seriously mixed feelings about it. On the one hand, I’ve been having a blast finding just the perfect outfit and accessories to wear, and researching fun poses for us to do. On the other hand, I’m feeling very insecure.
I know a lot of people say they aren’t photogenic, but I genuinely believe it’s a lot to do with face structure and my face simple does not translate well behind a camera lens. I can literally look at the mirror, think I look decent, then hold up a camera and it all just goes to hell in a handbasket. I hope since our photographer is a professional he’ll be able to find more flattering angles, but I’m still very worried that there’s only so much one can do to fix it. But aside from that, my biggie is…my arms. I hate them. Over the past few weeks I’ve been trying to focus more on them with handweights and push-ups, and while they’re not the thinnest, most toned arms in the world, I thought they were okay. Not beautiful, but okay. Last weekend we went out, I dressed up and we took pictures. Wow, my arms look HUGE. I’m so upset, especially since I thought I was doing well, and now our official photos are only a month away.
I guess I’m just looking for ANY advice on how to disguise them. All my outfits are sleevless except for one which is the least formal of the bunch and I wasn’t sure I wanted to wear it. I know not to keep my arms smooshed against my sides and I look for flattering angles but again, I’m afraid there’s only so much that can be done. My SO isn’t that much bigger than me so I’m really really worried that I’m going to look enormous compared to him, especially since I’ll be wearing floofy skirts.
I guess those pictures from last week just really took a blow to my self esteem. I thought I was doing pretty well and now I feel like all I’m going to be looking at are my flabby arms and my harsh, unphotogenic face.
Post # 2
- Wedding: December 2014 - Loft
Just want to chime in here because I was so anxious in the days leading up to my engagement photos. I have adult acne and I am VERY self concious. It is defintely worse in my eyes but I am painfully aware of it. I almost cancelled the photo’s many times. In the end I was extremely happy with how the photos came out and I expressed that concern to the photographer and he was able to work with us on that a bit. I’m sorry you feel that way. I promise we see it way worse than anyone else does. HUGE HUGE Hugs to you. You will cherish these photos for your whole life.
Post # 3
If you want to chagne your arms you’ll have to start seriouslly start working on them. Otherwise, if you are really that self-conscious then wear something that will cover them. Don’t let your arms get in your way of your engagement photos, you’ll regret it. Focus on what the photo session is all about, it’s about your engagment, not your arms. Talk with your photographer, they might be able to give you more flattering angles.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
Tell your photographer what you’re insecure about! Ask them to help you minimize your arms and they’ll keep an eye out for that. It’s their job to make you look great and give you images you’re happy about, any help you can give them in doing that would probably be good!
Post # 5
I also have the arm problem! Honestly I try to cover them but there are times when thats not possible. If you are face on to the camera with your body straight forward then pull your shoulders right back so your arms are straight at your side but as far back as they can go. This makes them look much thinner. If youre body is side on – don’t do it! It has the opposite effect. When sideways pull your shoulder closest to the camera forward a little, then the picture only really shows the back and side part of your arm which is the most flattering. Bending your arm helps as well but be careful not to do it too much or you will end up with a collection of awkward hand on hip photos. You can bend the lower part of your arm up e.g to touch your shoulder/hair and it will hide most of your upper arm. I hope this all makes sense, its hard to explain. Ask your Fiance to help hide your arms as well. He can put his arm around you with his hand covering the widest part of your upper arm to hide them. Also if he stands behind and you have a ‘hug’ shot then make sure his arms go over yours to hide them.
As far as being unphotogenic, tell all your worries to your photographer. Have a practise with your own camera from different angles and pick the 2 or 3 which are the least bad. They will come out much better with a photographer anyway. Good Luck! and dont dread your pictures they will be great!
Post # 6
If you’re dreading doimg something as superfluous as engagement photos, then skip them and use a photo you already have for your STD’s, or send STD’s with no photos. Don’t create extra drama in your life for something that really doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.
Post # 7
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
Horseradish: Our photographer is already booked and paid for, and it’s something I know my SO is extremely excited about. Personally I love our location and the ideas we’ve come up with and I know both our families will be disappointed if there’s no photos as well.
Thank you other bees for your comments and suggestions <3 I really like our photographer so I’m definitely going to be trying to discuss these things with him. I’ve been looking into cardigans to wear over my dresses, but I do worry that will make them look too casual as the dresses are on the more formal side. I’m really going to be working on my arms even more as well as trying to practing some flattering poses.
Post # 8
Hey lady! Don’t be too down about your arms, that’s just one of the body parts thag always looks twice as big in photos, it’s nothing wrong with you! We recently have some profile shots done for my job and my dress was sleeveless and the photographer mentioned how we had to be careful with arms in the photos (I am small AND life weights religiously and my arms still looked big in the photos she pointed this out in) so she just had me pose in ways that didn’t smoosh my arm against my body and make them look giant. Tell your photographer your concerns at the shoot, or you could add a cute blazer or jacket to your outfit! 🙂 good luck
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
TwinkleBoss: I have bever been good at having photos taken and have bad posture, but the photographer for my e session was amazing!! He corrected our postures and angles and took amazing photos! We learned a lot and were able to pose well for the wedding photos. Definitely worth the rehearsal for us!
Ask your photographer to do the same- adjust your stance/angles etc.
Try this for head tilting advice, it makes a big difference! http://lifehacker.com/5906963/instantly-become-more-photogenic-by-tilting-your-head-forward