(Closed) Almost engaged

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@dat5053:  You’ve been put into a pretty crappy situation, but should it really take *that* long to sit down with your SO, discuss a budget, and pick out a setting?

I guess after 6 years together I’d hardly call this rushing. I know every couple is different but picking out a ring shouldn’t be too hard. You can have a long engagement and spend months planning the wedding.

I suggest browsing Blue Nile to see what sort of settings you might like and to get an idea of pricing (you can look at just settings themselves).

Maybe once you get the ring, keep it secret for a few days so at least you have *something* to yourselves.

Good luck and congrats on your (almost) engagement 🙂

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

That stinks, but I think you’re learning a lesson early that I’ve learned recently that will be helpful once you’re engaged – DON’T TELL ANYONE ANYTHING!! I’m being overdramatic, but seriously, don’t tell people things until you and your fiance are ready for it to go viral, people to start getting expectations, people to start asking you about it, etc. I’ve learned it watching a friend that is getting married (she has been telling people things that have not been set in stone, she’s had to change it pretty substantially – like going from serving dinner to dessert only), and it has been kind of a mess.

Sorry you’re dealing with it, but chalk it up to lesson learned and keeping things private until they are 100% done. Even things like venue and date, I’m learning. People get one thing in their head and it’s a much bigger hassle to undo those ideas from them than it is to put them off in the first place.

As far as the engagement situation, I think it’s really up to your Boyfriend or Best Friend when he wants to do it, but I think it’s reasonable to set a timeline together. If you’ve already made a decision, you really could consider yourself engaged but waiting on the ring.

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